I Love You, Man... For the Sake of Allah

I Love You, Man... For the Sake of Allah

Opening

السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

الحمد لله رب العالمين، والصلاة والسلام على أشرف المرسلين نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين

(خطبة الحاجة) Opening Khutba

إن الحمد لله، نحمده ونستعينه ونستغفره، ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا وسيئات أعمالنا، من يهده الله فلا مضل له، ومن يضلل فلا هادي له، وأشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له، وأشهد أن محمداً عبده ورسوله

Introduction

الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم وبارك على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم تسليماً كثيراً ثم أما بعد

Our messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) says in a beautiful, beautiful, short hadith but has a great benefit and a great meaning in the subject of friendship and having quite beautiful relationship of brotherhood and sisterhood.

The Hadith of Camels

: صلى الله عليه وسلم He says

(Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 6496)

The example of people, just like the example of hundred camels which means if you would like to give similarity he says in every hundred camel لَا تَكَادُ تَجِدُ فِيهَا رَاحِلَةً you can barely find one single ride every hundred camel can be good for meat can be good for carrying stuff can be good for other things and so on but how many of all these camels you can trust your life worth to cross the desert as a suitable ride he says you can barely find one.

The Meaning of the Hadith

And the meaning of this hadith the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is speaking about the desert of this world the desert of this dunya towards the akhirah the example of people today, the example of people back then and the example of people will be in the future just the example of one hundred camels, in every hundred camel you can barely find one individual, one camel to fit as a ride for you where you can trust that ride to go across that desert.

And again the meaning of this hadith is, how many people you know in your life that you can really call them friends perhaps in your life span, inshallah may Allah extend your life in your lifetime, perhaps you will know so many people you can even count them and even in such a very short time like now, if you are most of you college students, in the very short time that you lived so far if you count how many friends you've already known in your life, you can even count them, remember those kids back then in the kindergarten level, then elementary, then middle school, high school and now again in college.

How many people did you know how many times did you move from one city to the other, from one neighborhood to the other you knew so many people so most likely you will know so many people that you cannot even count in your lifetime, but then by the end of your life, you will barely left with few.

Soul Mates and True Friends

Who are these few people most likely, those people you can call them soul mates or bosom friends, those you can trust them with your life and if I ask you the question right now how many of you claim that they have 10 friends and up, and I'm talking about just friends, how many of you have 10 friends in their circle and up, anyone? you guys have more than 10 friends? ok that's good, now how many of you have 5 friends and up, 5 friends and up, how many of you now can trust with all these friends, how many of you can call of all these friends, I would say 3 of them to be like, not just the best friends, these are the people with whom you can trust your secrets and even you can trust them with your life mashallah.

Have you tested? you claim but you haven't tested. One day, one brother actually, he send me a video a very short video clip we were talking about the subject of trust and how to trust others and so on so he send me this like a joke look at this video clip to show you how you need to be careful with whom you trust your life with.

So that clip shows a group of I believe higher elementary school going to a camp and then their trainer was standing at the side of maybe some cliff or a wall and he's teaching them to trust him basically, to trust and how he trusts them and he just trains them that he's going to be falling backwards and he wants them to grab him, hold him before he falls on the ground and you talk about kids maybe 10 years old, 11, 12 years old and they're lining up on both sides, he says okay now I'm going to fall backwards, I want you to hold me and as he was going backwards, all the kids were going backwards like this you can imagine where he landed he landed flat on the floor and the only thing he could hear is, aah, ouch.

So do you really trust these friends to that level you could just throw yourself and they would grab you when you fall? that's the meaning of this hadith of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم إِنَّمَا النَّاسُ كَالْإِبِلِ الْمِائَةِ that people are like 100 camels, in each 100 camel you can barely find one that is suitable to be your ride, the one that you could use to trust it with your life, we could go across this desert and this is a desert of our life to the akhirah, towards the akhirah.

How many friends do you have in your life that you can really and genuinely trust with your life this is the question that you really have to ask yourself and if you have them, you need to hold it so tight to them.

Brotherhood and Sisterhood for the Sake of Allah

When it comes to the subject of friendship here, it's no different than talking about الحب في الله,means brotherhood and sisterhood for the sake of Allah and even the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم they had friends.

Allah even spoke of Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and he mentioned his friend with him in one of these very important events in the history of Islam and the life of Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلمthe hijrah that was the man whom the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم trusted his life, and he was going to a very dangerous journey from Mecca to Medina and he wanted company.

Every time Abu Bakr as-Siddiq comes Ya Rasulullah, can you give me permission I want to go to Medina, he goes no wait just wait, maybe Allah would provide you with a friend a friend that he will go with you, and he would wait until the day came when the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم goes to the house of Abu Bakr as-Siddiq, and he knocks on the door, Asma and Aisha were there, and she said the Prophet صلی الله عليه وسلم came during a time which is unexpected, he wouldn't come during this time to our house and he says where is Abu Bakr as-Siddiq so he was just talking to him secretly to this time, and then Abu Bakr as-Siddiq said Ya Rasulullah this is the companionship the friendship that you talked to me about he says yes, he starts crying then Allah chose him, chose him to be the trustee chose him to be the companion of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم in such a very important milestone in the history of Islam to go and take that journey with Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم.

It wasn't an easy journey, and it wasn't a journey where you go and just have fun it was very dangerous, and he was ready and he was there willing to sacrifice his life for Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم.

Allah's Documentation in the Quran

Allah documented this in His Divine Word in the Qur'an in Surah At-Tawbah:

"Allah was the third of these two Muhammad and his companion his friend Abu Bakr as-Siddiq in the cave"

لِصَاحِبِهِ يَقُولُ إِذْ he was talking to his companion his friend, his brother in this context لَا تَحْزَنْ don't be sad إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَنَا Allah is with us and Allah shall guide us.

Finding True Friends

When it comes to finding a friend or this what we call them soul mate or bosom friend someone that you

can really trust it's not easy Wallahi in this life I know you might think it's easy because you always hang out together you have fun with them but that's not when you really recognize them to be your best friend this is not the time when it's easy and mashallah fine and nice that's not the time when you recognize these people it's gonna get really really tough and when it gets tough that's when you recognize friends from those who are not friends those who are genuine to you and those who are not genuine to you and when they are put to the test that's when brotherhood comes stays or goes.

The Seven Shades of Ar-Rahman

For this reason the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم mentioned in the same hadith that the whole conference is all about being under the shade of Ar-Rahman صلى الله عليه وسلم the messenger counts one of these categories:

(Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 660)

Two people we talked about رَجُلًا who heard that in the morning earlier actually today it's the gender being men it's universal term means two individuals تَحَابًا فِي اللَّهِ they love each other for the sake of Allah two women they love each other for the sake of Allah two men love each other for the sake of Allah اجْتَمَعًا عَلَيْهِ when they get together for the sake of Allah for the love of Allah azza wa jal وَافْتَرَقًا عَلَيْهِ and when they depart and separate they always depart and separate again for the sake of Allah keeping their love for the sake of Allah alive in their hearts.

The Need for Brotherhood

All of us we need these friends and we need this sense of brotherhood and sisterhood you can't say I don't need that because alhamdulillah I have my own virtual friends you know when you were in kindergarten you always talk to your imaginary friends and you play with them you have tea parties and you guys play police and gangsters and all the stuff and so on now alhamdulillah in your adulthood we moved on to the next level you have the same virtual friends on Facebook so you have all these thousands of friends and everybody is bragging alhamdulillah I have 1000 people on my list but is that real?

In real life do you really have that many friends? no way and I ask and guarantee you in your real physical world you don't even have more than 10 friends you have acquaintances people that you know and they know you but you can't call them friends you can have hundreds but you can't call them friends you can call them someone that I know and all of a sudden on the internet you have 1000, 2000 people you call them friends and subhanallah how come? how did this happen? it's just that because we don't have that social intelligence anymore that formal human interface is lost for the virtual interface behind the screen.

So you're befriending all these people specifically the younger generation by the way I spoke with the younger crowd teenagers in middle school and high school and they all brag about how many people they have on their friend list they all say alhamdulillah I have at least 1600 and this person I have still 1500 and so on who are they? they have no idea but when it comes to the real world I ask them how many friends do you have in your physical world? they don't have that many and when I say they do I say how many people that you can really trust them so much with your life that you would just trust all your secrets with them perhaps it would be one or two and that's what the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is talking about here you might have so many people around you but few that you can even trust with your life and with your secrets.

The Social Influence of Friends

You know the importance of this because in the Arabic text in the Arabic statements or proverb we say الصاحب ساحب الصاحب means the friend ساحب means he pulls so they pull towards themselves so your friends they have that gravity effect which is that social influence they call it actually it's that emotional or influential wifi connection this kind of wifi connection the moment you see a friend all of a sudden you connect immediately with them because you put it actually on auto connection the moment you see a friend you suddenly start developing these emotions based on their connection.

So if you know that this person always brings fun with them you always start immediately smiling and getting ready for the fun and so on when you see someone who's always grumpy you get ready for that as well when you have someone who's always you know whining and so on you get into the mood why? because that social connection gets immediately there based on this.

If you have someone who's always mashallah good or she's always good she always reminds you with khair and good and the akhira and so on you immediately instantly once you see them with that instant connection with that emotional and social wifi between you and them you start you get into the mood easily with them and when you have someone who's on the other side you immediately without even thinking about it but just because you're friends with them suddenly you start getting into that also that way or that mood and way of thinking because you connect immediately with them.

That's why that's why it is very important to check on with whom you be friends who should be your friends who are the people you would like to fall free towards them when they start derivating you towards themselves when they start pulling you just let it go because you trust them who are these people you should trust them.

Warning Against Bad Friends

Allah in the Quran warning us against the friends or at least those whom we call friends in our life Allah said:

The Characteristics of Good Company

The transgressor the wrongdoers (يَعَضٌ عَلَىٰ يَدَيْهِ) starts biting on their fingers yawm means expression of grief and sorrow and regret for what (يَا لَيْتَنِي اتَّخَذْتُ مَعَ الرَّسُولِ سَبِيلًا) on that day they will all say I wish I have taken my way with the messenger whether the messenger of Allah or those who act on behalf of the messenger of Allah who called to the path of Allah.

Woe to me I wish I have never taken this person as my best friend why is that? what are you saying this for?

The dhikr the dhikr the remembrance of Allah when it arrived to me remember those days when someone comes to you and they try telling you let's go and make salah some of us come and say come on let's finish this first let's do this and we'll do that together later on and it never happened why? because you just went with this some other distractions came in, some other temptations you did not insulate yourself like Imam Abdul Nasser mentioned and suddenly you found yourself influenced by that wifi connection and you went with the crowd so they pulled you towards them you just let that go.

And Allah says:

That those so called best friends on judgment day they shall be open enemies to each other except for the righteous those who when they met for the sake of Allah and when they departed again for the sake of Allah.

Wallahi it is so crucial and important that we find that circle of good friends best friends that when you open your wifi connection with them you don't mind it even if they are going to hack your emotion they are going to go to something good insha Allah they won't find anything bad and they are not going to install anything wrong onto your software or hardware or in this case it would be hardware basically so they will always send something good to you and you trust them with that and there is nothing wrong with keep it open because the connection goes both ways.

The Benefit of Good Friends

Our ulama even they remind us about the benefit of having good friends like Imam Hassan Basri (رحمه الله) he says:

Which means our brothers not necessarily our physically blood brothers but that religious spiritual brotherhood and sisterhood are dearer to us than our own blood brothers, why? because (إخْوَانُنَا) those brothers, spiritual brothers and sisters when we meet them they remind us with the akhirah and Allah but our blood brothers most likely and sisters most likely will remind us with what? with the dunya and that is something natural because when you go home you tend to drop your guards down and relax so it's easy to start bickering and fighting and get things you know with siblings because you are used to each other but with friends you still have that kind of formal firewall barrier that you keep so therefore you keep distance at some point whenever you talk to them there is a specific image you try to display with them but with your siblings your blood family and relatives you have that actually down so therefore you just feel free to practice this and that's why he says that with them with these blood brothers, actually spiritual brothers and sisters, they remind us with the akhirah and that's why they are dearer to us.

Al-imam al-Shafi'i (رحمه الله) he says if it was not for waking up at night to pray qiyamul layl at night first and the companionship of the good people in this world we wish in the Arabic language I would not have wished to stay in this land or this world which means just because I have good friends, people when I get with when I sit with them and and talk to them I just love that companionship it is so beautiful, so genuine so honest, so innocent that you would love it even to the extent that some kings kings and royalties they would wish and love to have this kind of informal relationship with someone they could call best friend and best brother or sister.

The Value of Spiritual Friendship

One of the khulafa of Bani Umayyah he was asked one of the leaders of Bani Umayyah back then he was asked O Amir of the Mu'mineen the leader of the believers what is left for you in this dunya that you wish to have basically he owned everything at that time they were like the super power of that time so he owned everything, the land and everything that it has by the will of Allah but he was asked what exactly is left for you that you would like to have and own in this world he goes that I can just with one genuine brother that I can just drop the guards basically of formality with them feel like one part, one individual together where I can just express myself naturally, be genuine with them and they all advise me in a nice way and in return we would live just happily ever after so I wish I could have that.

And some of the ulama they would say that amongst the people of the spiritual experience the spiritual relationship connection, there is a relationship if the kings and royalties would know about it they will fire us with the swords to get it because they cannot have it because of their formal kind of life and relationship but those who have that spiritual connection for the sake of Allah they own it and that's why they're in love with it they're in love with that relationship for the sake of Allah.

Examples from the Prophet's Life

We see that in the life of Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) few examples were mentioned to you Mu'adh ibn Jabal again Dr. Altaf mentioned his story with Khawlani Mu'adh ibn Jabal was one of those few young people who were privileged to have the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) express that to them verbally he says:

(Abu Dawood Hadith 1522)

Ya Mu'adh I'm here Rasul I'm listening to you Ya Mu'adh Mu'adh is listening you're enthusiastic Ya Rasul I'm here for you I love you for the sake of Allah Allahu Akbar can you imagine you being that individual receiving this testimony from the messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) to you saying to you I love you for the sake of Allah what would you do? how would you feel about it? it's an amazing testimony coming from the messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) to someone who considered himself perhaps insignificant in the community of people like Abu Bakr al-Siddiq and the other of the early companions of Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) still the messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) he had that connection and relationship with his friends and his Sahaba companions.

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) he defended them even when some later people coming to Islam embracing Islam and somehow they didn't have that respect that is due to these early converts to Islam so they somehow they felt that they have privilege over them whatsoever so they spoke some words against him the messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) when he stood for the rights of his companions he says:

(Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 3673)

Don't you ever curse my companions, my friends never do that to them if you spend the entire mountain of Uhud in gold, in charity you would not be able even to pay the amount of half of the mud which is a handful of care that they have given in their time because the sacrifice cannot be overlooked they were the early people who came to Islam and endured all the hardship for the sake of Allah for that reason the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) he had that sincere love for these Sahaba.

Characteristics of True Friendship

If you ever find a person like this a person that you can genuinely and truly call them a brother or a sister for the sisters in the Arabic language we say perhaps you will have a brother in your life or a sister in that case with a sister that your mother never gave birth to them you will have in your life people you consider them genuine brother even though your mom never gave birth to them and Wallahi I can testify for that in my own personal experience in my life I had few people that I can genuinely and truly call them brothers that I trust them even though we have been separated now more than 15 years subhanallah 15 years we never met except for once during those 15 years after we departed we've been together for 4 or 5 years and then subhanallah we had to leave.

During those 5 years we spent together we were roommates roommates for 4 years of these 5 years actually not maybe the best roommates but we were good roommates I believe and we traveled for Hajj together 4 times of these 4 times 3 times walking between the Manasik in Mecca together we ate together we slept in the tents together we traveled and we suffered things together subhanallah you can always imagine and visualize whenever you see that person in your dream even you always remember the sacrifices we had for each other and after all these 15 years of separation subhanallah we still have these memories so alive and so vivid in our mind we call each other until now and finally we found each other on Facebook he's not that active there though but still at least we get to see each other alhamdulillah very often and I can tell you this is an individual you can really and freely call a brother that if anything happens will be the person to come for your defense just you and even if you were wrong I assure you he will be the first person to come in your face and say that you were wrong.

Principles of Dealing with True Friends

If you ever have this friend or this brother in your life what should you do to them or how should you deal with them:

Number One: Give More Than Expected

Number one when you deal with them give them more than what they expect of you or from you usually good brothers and sisters they don't expect anything from you because if you expect something in return that relationship might not be necessary for the sake of Allah but because of that you give because you know they don't expect anything from you you're giving them back and when you give you give more than what is expected of you why because you're doing it for the sake of Allah out of love for them for the sake of Allah.

Allah spoke about the muhajireen and the ansar:

Altruism the concept of giving what they have to the others even though they're in need of it they're more in need of it (وَلَوْ كَانَ بِهِمْ خَصَاصَةٌ) but they still give it away for the sake of Allah.

Number Two: Be Sincere to Them

If you ever find this person in your life you need to be sincere to them and I know the word sincerity will always have it associated with Allah but the messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) says:

(Sahih Muslim Hadith 55)

Deen is all based on sincerity which means being honest, being sincere when you commit, sincere about your commitment so the sahabah said to whom? he said first of all to Allah then to the messenger (صلی الله عليه وسلم) and third your leaders and lastly to the individuals the average person so you're sincere to your friends, your brothers and sisters why? because you love them for the sake of Allah azza wa jal.

Number Three: Be Careful with the Expression

If you ever find this person when you love them for the sake of Allah azza wa jal I want you to be careful with that I want you to be careful with that don't spread the word I love you for the sake of Allah just like this without you know making sure that you put it in the right place sometimes we have the habit of just calling everybody I love you for the sake of Allah do you know me? no but I just love you for the sake of Allah so you better know me before you say that why? because sometimes it's really a dangerous statement because there is commitment when you say this word if I act bad towards you are you going to change right now? change your attitude towards me because I'm not acting the way you expect me to act.

That's how some of the ulama used to test their friendship of their own students, you will be harsh with them to test their genuineness to see when you change it was not for the sake of Allah it was because he thought I was nice, I was funny but now that you see I'm different than what you expected you change your attitude so when you love them the prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) says in a hadith:

(Adab al-Mufrad by al-Bukhari Hadith 1327)

When you love someone love them moderately perhaps one day that love might turn into enmity and then he said and if you ever hate someone let it be moderately perhaps this person one day will turn into your best friend and beloved one so do it moderately when you love people or have that hatred to somebody just be moderate don't be too excessive and extravagant about it.

Number Four: No Obligation to Fulfill All Demands

Next if you ever find this person I want you to understand and realize you are at no obligation to fulfill all their demands and their desires sometimes we get under pressure we call this peer pressure sometimes

so you are under pressure to fulfill all their desires they come to you and they want you to go out of your way why? because you are my friend, right? you should do that to me you know what, it's because I am your best friend and brother and sister I don't want to do this to you because it's wrong so you need to understand being a good friend and the best friend and brother and sister it doesn't mean you go out of your way to the way for what's wrong.

And the best, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) says:

(Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 2444)

That you support and assist your brother or sister whether he was right or wrong he said, ya Rasulallah, we know how to do that when they are right how we do that when they are wrong you stop them from being wrong means you hold tight on their hand and remind them that they are wrong that's how you support them.

Number Five: Defend Them Against Slander

If you ever find this individual and someone tells you something bad about them don't you ever let the shaytan get in between you and these people Allah says in Surah An-Nur in the story of Al-Ifk when they slandered Ummul Mu'min Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala anha with the word of Ifk, Allah says:

Means if at least when you hear it first time as believers, as believing men and women you should have good assumption of one another when you hear it first time don't say really, oh my god and you go and delete them from your friend list and buddy list on chat immediately you unfriend this person on Facebook just be careful, wait verify that, check it out and see what happens if it's true it becomes your responsibility your brotherly responsibility, sisterly responsibility again to support them by teaching them what is right and remind them about what is wrong.

The Story of Love and Testing

Why they're in love with it they're in love with that relationship for the sake of Allah we see that in the life of Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) few examples were mentioned to you Mu'adh ibn Jabal was one of those few young people who were privileged to have the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) express that to them verbally that individual receiving this testimony from the messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) to you saying to you I love you for the sake of Allah what would you do? how would you feel about it? it's an amazing testimony coming from the messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم).

When you love them the prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) says when you say this word if I act bad towards you are you going to change right now? change your attitude towards me because I'm not acting the way you expect me to act that's how some of the ulama used to test their friendship of their own students, you will be harsh with them to test their genuineness to see when you change it was not for the sake of Allah it was because he thought I was nice, I was funny but now that you see I'm different than what you expected you change your attitude.

Accepting Imperfection

And if you ever find a friend you need to understand that they will never be perfect they will never be perfect in the Arabic poetry we say which means if you gonna be start blaming your friend for everything that they do and say then you gonna end up with no one around you to blame which means you gonna be alone everybody gonna be away from you and if you're not gonna drink from the water because it's not 100% as clean as it should be you gonna end up thirsty means these people they will come and they will always get some residues of past and culture and this and that and so on so you need to be enduring the hardships of dealing with the people as much as you can.

The Story of the Nails

There is so much actually I can say about this but my time is up and I would like to end with a story and that story to remind us that whenever we our friends, our brothers and sisters because of backbiting because of a lie that was said and was circulated unjustly it would hurt so much that even if you try to reconcile it can never be back as it used to be before that.

The story says that there was a young boy who came to his father and his father he knew that this boy he gets really irritated so fast he doesn't leave friends around him because he gets upset he takes his friends away from them he does this he does that eventually his father he said you know what I want you to do me a favor he gave him actually a bag with nails and he goes every time you get upset I want you to go and just hit a nail on that wooden wall so every time he just feels upset because somebody, someone, some incident he goes and he just hits a nail in that wall at the end of the day his father asks him so how did it look like because the first day I had actually about 40 nails on the wall already so now next day he just he was afraid that he was going to end up out of space so he starts now trying to control himself the second day he had less than 40 nails third day less and less after sometime he came so happy to his father he said dad Alhamdulillah today I had no nails on the wall I did not put any nails on the wall so this is great let's go and walk it backward right now because every day that passes without feeling angry and controlling yourself Alhamdulillah I want you to take one of these nails out so he starts doing that every day he passes he takes one of these nails out one after the other few days later the whole wall was now empty of all these nails completely free from nails he came back to his father he said Alhamdulillah no more nails on the wall right now his father said this is great come with me my son and he took him to the wall and he goes look at the wall see all these holes that you punch in the wall you can never repair and

even if you try there will always be traces of that actually hole that you left in the heart of these friends that you have.

So it's the same thing you might go and throw that word that you would regret you tried to put it back it's too late you might do something to them that you can say who cares but one day you yourself will care and it will be too hard to put it back so before you get to that level with them learn and know that if you really love them for the sake of Allah then your reward is with Allah to be under the shade of Ar- Rahman if you meet them you meet them for the sake of Allah and if you ever depart away from them you're also doing this for the sake of Allah.

Closing: A Divine Gift

This gift of befriending these people Wallahi it's a mercy from Allah a blessing from Allah I will close with this ayah Allah says to the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم):

If you are to spend all the treasures of this world if you spend everything to bring their hearts together you will never be able to do that but it is Allah who brings these hearts close to each other so if you would love to befriend someone it's for the sake of Allah you can do that and if it doesn't happen for the sake of Allah most likely their relationship is fragile and might last actually very long so you keep it the way Allah wants it to be.

والحمد لله رب العالمين والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته