Feminine Men and Masculine Women
By Siraj Wahhaj | 2026-01-16T12:43:01.68032+00:00 | Topic: Iman
Feminine Men and Masculine Women
Opening Prayers and Praises
Alhamdulillah. We praise Allah the Almighty. And brothers and sisters, if you do nothing today, at least praise Allah. Bear witness, (لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا ٱللَّٰهُ مُحَمَّدٌ رَسُولُ ٱللَّٰهِ - La ilaha illallah Muhammadur Rasulullah). There is no God worthy of worship except Allah alone. He has no partner. Nothing. No one is like Him at all.
The Foundation of Faith
No one deserves our absolute obedience except Allah. No imam, no sheikh, no alim, no scholar, no one. No religious person, no parent, no friend, no wealthy person. Any of them. None of them deserves any worship at all except Allah alone. And Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) is Allah's messenger, His last messenger, and no prophet, no messenger after Him.
We believe in every word of Al-Quran. It is the word of Allah. And we believe in the sunnah of Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم). And brothers and sisters, we seek refuge with Allah, even from the weakness of our own selves. I, the khatib, the one who gives khutbah, I ask Allah, His blessing to protect me even against my own weakness. Why? Because you need the words of Allah and His messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), if you're going to be guided to sirat al-mustaqim, to the straight path.
Brothers and sisters, we need Allah's guidance. And only He can guide us and help us. We depend upon Allah the Almighty. We ask Allah today to give His great blessings to His messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), and his family, and the great sahaba, and the great Muslims of the past, and the Muslims of today.
The Topic: A Warning from the Prophet
Brothers and sisters, today's khutbah comes from a statement by our beloved messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), when he said, I quote, when one of the sahaba said about the messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم), he says:
(Sahih al-Bukhari 5885)
The Prophet cursed the feminine men and the masculine women. Cursed the feminine men and the masculine women.
My khutbah today is the feminine men and the masculine women. This is the khutbah for today.
The Disease of Homosexuality in Society
Brothers and sisters, I don't believe any of you are homosexual. This is a disease of this society. According to the Kinsey report, some 10% of the American people are homosexual. Over 25 million Americans, 1 out of 10, men who prefer men sexually, and women who prefer women.
Now there may be some who have some little tendency, maybe among the Muslims, among us, allahu alam. I don't think so. But hopefully today's khutbah can get rid of that if you have it in your heart. And number two, I want you to be able to defend against these homosexuals. So you have good argument, in sha Allah.
Standing Firm Against Deviation
And also to remind you last week, what I told you, the news that we got from Toronto, supposedly of some Muslims, coming out of the closet, homosexuals, Muslims, in Toronto who want to establish a masjid, audhu billah, for the gays, Muslim gays. We are against that 100%. We don't accept it. And we will never accept it. No matter how much the American government and the Canadian government legislated in their laws that it is acceptable, it will never be acceptable by the Muslims.
I don't care how many times it's on Oprah Winfrey, or any of these other shows, Donnie Ewell, we will never accept it because Allah rejects it, and His messenger rejects it, all of His messengers reject it, and we, the Muslims, will forever reject it until yawm ul qiyamah. I don't care how many books they write by their scholars, how many articles that appear in newspapers and magazines, Muslims detest it.
Understanding the Curse of the Prophet
And brothers and sisters, listen to the word of our messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), or the companion who said about the messenger of Allah, la'na, la'na rasul, la'na rasul Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم). He cursed, cursed, cursed the men who are feminine, and cursed the women who are masculine.
What do you mean la'na, curse? The opposite of curse is salah. To make prayer, to ask blessings, to invoke the blessings of Allah.
Allah sends prayers and invocations on Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم). Allah, Allah does it. (وَمَلَائِكَتُهُ - and His angels).
Send prayers on Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم). And give a humble greeting.
The Opposite of Blessing: The Curse
Now we heard that many times in the Quran. We hear this all the time. But how many of us listen to the verse that comes after it? Oh. And those who (يُؤْذُونَ اللَّهَ - to annoy, to harm Allah). No you can't hurt Allah. Annoy Allah. Whoever annoys Allah and His messenger, Allah curse them. Oh man. In this life, and in the akhira, and the hereafter. What does it mean? He cursed the men who are feminine, and the women who are masculine.
He cursed them. What does it mean? It means the opposite of sending blessings. You send invocation that Allah punish them. That's how bad it is.
Society's Reversal of Right and Wrong
And brothers and sisters, let's face it. In America, in New York City, in Toronto, you would look bad and strange condemning homosexuals. They make you look like a bad guy. They make you look like you are out of the limit, out of the boundaries. They make you look like you are silly and stupid. They make you look like you are some extremist, because you condemn what Allah condemns.
Allah is not liberal all of a sudden. They know it in this society that Allah destroyed a whole area, Sodom and Gomorrah, for that very act. Luti. Luti. Lawati. Luti. It is the act of the people of Lot. Lut. Prophet Lot. And two angels come in the form of men. And now the men of Sodom and Gomorrah want to go with the men. They want the angels. They look like men.
And then when Lot admonished them, they accused Lot, what you want to be? You want to be righteous? You want to be clean? You want to be pure? The same way they talk about us today.
The Reality Around Us
Oh, it's common to see it. Me and a brother was driving the other day and we saw one right down on Franklin Avenue, Fulton Street. A man dressed like a woman. Transvestite. Men who dress like women, women who dress like men. And, brothers and sisters, you have many, many, many women out there who dress like men. Yes, you do. Yeah.
And Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) also said that Allah cursed the man who dressed like a woman and the woman who dressed like a man.
The Principle: Oppose the Mushrikeen
Now, brothers and sisters, I want to stop here and say this. You see, always put this society in perspective, in proper perspective. They're going to always, always, always make the wrong move. I'm going to tell you two
words that Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said. So profound. It's deep, man. So penetrating. Listen to what he said.
(Sahih al-Bukhari 5892, Sahih Muslim 259)
Khalifu al-mushrikeen. Oh man, that's heavy. You want some deep? You want something real deep? You want something real deep? Listen to this. Two words. (خَالِفُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ - Khalifu al-mushrikeen). Be opposite the mushriks. The pagans. Those who worship God besides Allah.
You want wisdom? Do the opposite of what they do. Oh, that's heavy. Why? You know the lesson, brothers and sisters? The mushriks will never do the right thing. Never. They can't do it. They can't do it. That's why the Prophet said (خَالِفُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ - Khalifu al-mushrikeen). Be opposite of them. You're not sure if something is haram or halal? Watch the mushriks. See what they do. Do the opposite. Yeah?
A Word to the Brothers: Clothing and Its Effects
Now, brothers and sisters, I'm going to say something now. Some of you brothers may get a little upset, but don't get upset. I'm saying it because I love you. Allah is my witness. I love every one of you. But if I didn't love you, I wouldn't correct you. So, I'm going to correct you and myself. Okay? (خَالِفُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ - Khalifu al-mushrikeen). Be opposite of the disbelievers.
Now, brothers and sisters, do you know something? Clothing that you wear has an effect on you. Yes, it does. Put on no clothing, it has an effect on your mind, your psyche. And never forget, women are different from men. So, women have a different effect when they put on certain clothing. And you, as men, have a different effect.
The Prohibition of Gold and Silk for Men
For instance, did you know Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) made haram, prohibited for the man to wear gold. Oh, so many people in this society, they wear gold. Why? Why not? Why can't we wear gold? Because gold does something to the man different from the woman. He allowed the woman to wear gold, but not the men. Why? He allowed women to wear silk, but not the men. Why? Man can't wear no silk in this life.
You see, brothers and sisters, we need Quran and Sunnah. If we don't have Quran and Sunnah, we'd be just like everyone else. With no guidance.
Now, I didn't say it, the messenger of Allah, Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), he said it. Ali, radiallahu anhu, said:
The Prophet took (حَرِيرًا - some silk), in his right hand, and gold in his left hand, and said that these two - hadhani haram - these two are haram for the men, of ummati, ummati, ummati. From my ummah, it's haram for the men, and - halal for the women.
(Sunan Abu Dawud 4057, Sunan an-Nasa'i 5144)
Have been made halal for the women, haram for the men. You watch these young boys, they wear gold, something happens to them when they put it on them. Watch the way they walk, they walk differently. They walk arrogantly. Something happens to a man when he puts gold on him. He acts different, he acts strange. Because a man wasn't made to wear gold in this life.
Take a man and put penny holes on him. He gotta act funny. He can't help it. Because it does something, the clothing does something, so silk does something, makes a man a little feminine. He says, oh no, not me. Oh, not me, I'm a masculine man, no. Don't follow these people. No more gold, and no more silk for the man.
The Issue of Earrings for Men
Now one more. You ready? Brothers, please, after today, no more brothers wearing earrings. Why? Does it say in Quran, thou shalt not wear earrings if thou art a man? No. Can you find it in Hadith? Don't wear earrings. No, you can't find it there. But let me tell you what you do find.
Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) gave khutbah on Yom Eid. On the day of the Eid. And he gave the khutbah, when he finished, he went to the women, and started preaching to the women, and the women took off their earrings, and gave them as sadaqah. No sahaba took off their earrings. No man took their earrings off. You know why? They didn't wear earrings then.
(Sahih al-Bukhari 98, Sahih Muslim 885)
Prophet Muhammad didn't wear no earrings. Prophet Ibrahim didn't wear no earrings. Then why are you wearing earrings now? Can I tell you why? Because the foolish people of this world wear earrings. Men, it's something new. This is new for men, in this society, to wear earrings. Don't do it brother.
Following the Right Example
You know something? If Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) wore earrings, if Umar ibn al-Khattab wore earrings, if Abu Bakr wore earrings, brother Faraj would put on an earring in his ear today. Why? Because Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) is worthy of imitation. Not these people.
We don't worship these people and we don't worship Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), but we follow Muhammad because Allah demands that we follow Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم), and he will never ever lead us astray.
Brotherhood in Islam
You know, brothers and sisters, it occurred to me. Do you know the brotherhood of Islam? If a brother was a homosexual and he hid it, our brotherhood would be a paradise for them. Now think about it. We hug each other, and we do. Think about it. We hug each other, we kiss each other. Yes, we do.
Even some of my brothers from the east, they see me, they want to kiss me, and I have to turn my lips, because if I don't turn it, they would get me. But it's a... But brotherhood, I mean. You know how brotherhood, you love each other, and you express it, and you always... Some brothers just hug each other, and you start going like this and hugging each other.
But there's nothing funny about that. Brotherhood. That's good. Even in some Muslim societies, it's not uncommon for men to hold hands and walk down the street together. It's not uncommon. Don't do it in New York City, though. Don't do it here. But the brotherhood that we express is good.
A Call to Manhood
So brothers and sisters, what I want to say to my beloved brothers, let us get back to self. I'm not worried about homosexuality, but I am worried about what I see. Brothers who are too soft can hardly run around the block. Even some brothers, I shake their hand, honestly, they feel so frail, I'm afraid I'm going to break their hand if I'm a little firm.
Too soft. We need brothers who are more manly. Not macho. But manly. What's manly? Defined by Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم - sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). You want to know the definition of man? Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم - sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), that's the definition of manhood.
Firm. Firm, but gentle at the same time. Compassionate, but a warrior for Allah. That's what we want to be like. Men being men. And so brothers, today, take back our rightful place. And be men. Why? Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم - sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) cursed the feminine men.
Second Part of the Khutbah
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the man and his wife. And upon his most beautiful wife. And so on.
The Crisis in Bosnia
Brothers and sisters, I want to take a moment to pause this sermon. But I don't want to make it an announcement, so I rather now. Inshallah, I want us Muslims to make dua. We are Muslims who suffer in Bosnia. It is the area that you call Yugoslavia. And when Allah is afraid that the area from the Muslims, the independence, and the independent state known as Bosnia.
I've been reading the reports of the suffering capacities in that area. Concentration camps. Muslims are dying by the thousands, being smoked. And brothers, we must admit of our weakness. I feel embarrassed that I'm just asking us to make dua. I'm embarrassed. Of course, we should be doing more than that.
Next week, Friday, Inshallah, August 14th, there's going to be a demonstration in front of the United Nations. This demonstration is organized by the Islamic Circle of North America and other communities, including the Masjid al-Taqwa of New York. They will have Jumu'ah prayer service. Brothers and sisters, if we can make, let's do it for Allah. It's not much. But somehow, an effort might make a difference. Allahu alam.
The Need for Strong Men
But the reason that in the context of this in Bosnia suffer, the way I see it right now, what we should be doing is getting an army of men here to go there and to march and to do jihad. That's what we're supposed to be doing. Because now Muslims are asking the United States government to get involved. Why are you asking them? Because they have quwwah. They have strength. They have armies. They have guns.
So we're asking the United States government, please, can you go save our Muslims in Bosnia? I don't want to ask the United States government for anything. I'd rather ask Allah and get the men and say, come on men, let's go. Let's march. Where we going? We're going to do jihad. Honey, I may not come back. And you know brothers, it's better for us to look for jihad. Because if you don't at least prepare for jihad, you die in a state of jahiliya, a state of ignorance.
But you know what that means? That means we have to be men. This society needs men. Yeah, that's what they need. They need men. Men will be men. Firm, high in willpower.
Overcoming Weakness
And brother, let me say this. You can't be a man if you got a drug problem. And you can't be drugged. You want to go fight somebody, you can't even fight your own self. You want to go fight jihad, first you been left, fight jihad against your own weakness.
We need men, disciplined men. If Allah don't give them a wife, they fast, and they abstain, and they don't go crazy, because they're... Oh, we got, we got these guys. Just send them some skirts. And we got them, we got their nose. They can't do nothing, man. They can't, they're too weak.
We don't need that kind of man. We need men. Drugs don't faze them. Women don't faze them. Nothing but the face of Allah. That's the kind of men we need. We don't need whimpering men. We need stand-up men. Who gonna be soldiers for Allah.
The Pattern of the Mushrikeen
And you know what, brothers and sisters? What they're doing in Bosnia to the Muslims, we should have predicted it. Why? What they're doing to the Muslims in Algeria, we should have predicted. Why? Because the mushriks will always do the wrong thing. خالفوا المشركين - Khalifu al-mushrikeen.
Fighting the Right Way
You know, brothers and sisters, in my conclusion, even fighting, fighting is prescribed for us, even though we may hate it. But even Muslims, when we fight, we fight the right way. I'm not gonna kill no woman. I ain't gonna kill no children. I'm not gonna kill no old men and old women. We're not gonna burn down trees. But we'll fight against the enemy. Why? Because Allah reveals in Quran:
Fight in the way of Allah against those who fight against you. But don't go beyond the boundaries. You don't slaughter people, after you get them as prisoners. Treat them with kindness.
The Example from Trinidad
You know, I got a paper today from Trinidad. I got three papers today from Trinidad. They have some articles about Abu Bakr. Imam Abu Bakr, from Masjid Muslimin, Jama'at al-Muslimin in Trinidad. The brothers who were just recently released. Alhamdulillah.
You know what? One of the women who died, there in the building, part of the government building. This week, her husband and her three sons took shahada. Became Muslims. They respect Islam, even though his wife died, in the insurrection. And not only that. I read in another newspaper, where a Muslim brother, fighting against the police. One of the police happened to be a female. She took shahada, and now they're ready to get married. She went to the masjid, took shahada, and now they're about to get married.
Alhamdulillah. You see brothers and sisters, even sometimes Muslims, we take prisoners in a war. And we treat them so good. Many of them become Muslims. Yeah. We don't have to torture people. Brothers and sisters, we're not about that. We're not about torturing people. Here you are, you got somebody in prison, you got them locked up, and you torture them. Man, you need to be put down in the earth.
A Word to the Sisters
So brothers and sisters, I say to you, my dear sisters, I didn't forget you. Sisters, please be careful of who you listen to. The so-called feminist movement. Many of them are headed by lesbians. They will have you hating men. Some women of this society are so misguided, they absolutely hate men. And you can hear them talk. All they talk, them men, them men, them, them, them men.
And you know what? It's seeping in to the ummah. Sisters are now saying that. All their conversation is us against them. It's not us against them, it's us together.
Men and women believers are friends and protectors of one another. They enjoin the good and forbid the evil.
So brothers and sisters, what I'm saying brothers, we want our women back to their natural place. What's their natural place? Feminine. Allah made them feminine.
The Punishment for Homosexuality
And the maful. The one who does it and the one to whom it is done to. Kill them both.
Now let me stop here and say this. I don't want us to go get sticks and start running outside looking for homosexuals. Don't do that. No. We don't condone that. No. No. It's not right. Even if they were outside, brothers and sisters, open homosexuals, you don't beat them up. We don't have that right.
Let's go to them and invite them to Islam and make them feel uncomfortable but don't beat them up. No. That's not what we want. When we go to Toronto, inshallah, to stop that masjid from opening up the Muslim gay masjid, we're not going to burn it down? No. Uh-uh. Why? Because we want to correct them with our tongue. That's the way to do it. Believe me.
If you burn it down, or if you beat these people and kill these people, that's the worst thing you can do. And you'll set back our movement. Believe me. Take it from me. Take it from the leadership here. Don't go beating these people up. Don't. I'm saying, I'm reiterating, don't go out there beating up homosexuals. We don't accept that. Don't. It's incorrect. You want to do something? Invite them to Islam. Explain to them how it's wrong.
The Problem of Extremes
And I say to you, brothers and sisters, this thing of homosexuality is nothing new. It's old. Any society that goes against, don't follow the sharia, don't follow revelation, is going to go off. You know why, brothers and sisters, in my conclusion? Too much, and not enough. That's the problem of this society. Too much, and not enough.
Do you know Muslims in Somalia? Millions of them, starving, they're going to die, because they don't even have crumbs enough to feed them. Not enough food. Don't you know Muslims in Bangladesh, many of them starving, don't have enough food? Don't you know all over the world, Muslims and non-Muslims, they have bellies that are popped out, skinny, malnourished, because they don't have enough, not enough, and too much.
Then in America, you have people so fat, they're so fat because they eat all day long, eat all night long, they're fat, they're overweight, they get sick, and they die, because they're too much. Too much, and not enough.
The Reality of Homelessness and Poverty
I drive down Atlantic Avenue, Atlantic Avenue, Pennsylvania Avenue, there's a woman, go look at her, every day she's there. She lives on the street. All her belongings are right there on the street. I go to the masjid at five o'clock in the morning, she's sitting there. Twelve o'clock in the afternoon, she's reading a book. Twelve midnight, she's still there. She lives there, man. Homeless people all over America, all over the world. Not enough, but there's some people too much.
And now Muslims in America, we complain. We're too soft. We live a soft life. We live an easy life. All we want is sit down and wear silk and wear gold and wear earrings, and think things are nice, and things are so sweet, when people are dying every day, everywhere. Too much.
You need to take some of what you got. You complain to your sister about, you need another pair of shoes. Some people have no shoes. You want more dress, more clothing, you want a bigger house, you want this and that. Many people have no house at all. You, brother, sister, you get a welfare check. Your welfare check is much better than most other people on the earth. But yet you complain. You complain and you complain.
Going to Extremes
Too much. Extremes. We go to the extremes all the time. You can't stay normal. Allah gives you a woman, gives you a good woman. You have to go outside of the boundaries of marriage. Allah gives a man a daughter. He violates his own daughter. Incest on the rise. Why? Because these people don't keep the balance. So Allah has to reveal in Quran:
Reference: Quran 4:23
Allah has made haram for you, your mother.
Even yesterday on TV, Geraldo, man married to his daughter. On the TV, everybody can see it. So her baby is her baby and her grandbaby. Her father fathered her own child. Boys, men marrying their mothers in America. You're shocked. Don't be shocked by nothing in this society. That's the nature of the kafir. That's the nature of
the mushrik. And Muslims, if you follow them into that hole of the lizard, then you're gonna go to hell. Just like them.
The Return to Natural Roles
So brothers and sisters, brothers, let me be honest with you. Many of our women lost their femininity. They're masculine. They're manlike. You know why? Because so many men have become womanlike. If men would stand up and be the kind of man that Allah wants us to be, believe me, our women will follow. They're looking for strength. The women out there, they're looking out for strength.
So brothers, if Allah puts you in a position of power, He will do that one day. You will be powerful. You will be well-known. But if Allah puts you in a position of power, use your power to raise these women up and not seduce them like everybody else. Be different, man. Be different. Prove you're Muslim. Prove it. Be different.
Be Different from Them
Don't dress like them. Be different. Yes, I'm a Muslim. Out of curiosity, it will come to you. I notice, Abdullah, you don't dress like the other rappers. You look different. Your eyes look different. Your eyes look clear. Your mind is clear. Your mouth is pure and clean. Be different from them, man. Be different from them.
And bring them to guidance. If you're going to be somebody in that world, if they follow Michael Jackson, be better than him. But bring them to righteousness. I'd like to see you bring 100, 200, 300 women wearing khimars, wearing long dresses, showing them the guidance, showing them the way. Because you're a servant of Allah. Be a servant, man. Be a servant for Allah.
And the only way you want to be a servant, you be different from them. Don't be afraid to be different. Allah take your difference and make you great with it. Allah exhorts you with it. Difference. Because you're not like them. And you're Muslim 100%. Not only in the masjid, but in home, in the street. Wherever you are, they can see. They know if you're for real. And they know if you're frontin'.
So you want to continue frontin' like everybody else? Go to the front. And be like everybody else. Allah will expose you in the end. Be different. Be a Muslim. Be a believer. Don't follow them. Follow Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم - sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Closing Dua
O Allah, please bless your ummah. Please guide us with Quran and sunnah of Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم - sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). O Allah, bless your ummah to love your book, Al-Quran. Strengthen us to read the Quran. Bless us to understand Quran. O Allah, make the Muslims strong like your messenger Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم - sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). And the early Sahaba.
O Allah, bless our women. Bless them to be strong and beautiful. In the image of the great women that we had before us. Like Aisha and Khadija and Asiya and Mariam. Bless them. O Allah, bless us with a righteous ummah. Please purify us. O Allah, I ask you to please forgive us our sins. This jamaat, this ummah.
O Allah, raise from among us men strong who want to do jihad. O Allah, help us. Join the hearts of these Muslims together. Guide us on Sirat al-Mustaqim. Make us to love the hereafter more than we love this world. And O Allah, bless us with righteous offspring.
O Allah, bless the family of Muhammad. And the family of Muhammad. And the wives of Muhammad. And the children of Muhammad. And peace be upon the many.
Reference: Quran 2:127, 2:128, 2:286
O Allah, accept from us that You are the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. O Allah, do not burden us with that which we cannot bear. And pardon us. And forgive us. And have mercy on us. You are our Master.