Responsibilities of Husbands & Responsibilities of Wives
By Nouman Ali Khan | 2026-01-09T12:08:07.465368+00:00 | Topic: Marriage
Responsibilities of Husbands & Responsibilities of Wives
Khutbah by Nouman Ali Khan
Opening Praise and Introduction
All praise is due to Allah, to Whom we praise, to Whom we ask for help, to Whom we ask for forgiveness, to Whom we believe, to Whom we trust, and to Whom we seek refuge from the evil of our souls and from the evil of our deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can misguide him, and whomsoever He misguides, none can guide him. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger.
He was sent by Allah with guidance and the religion of truth, that He may make it prevail over all other religions, and Allah is Sufficient as a Witness. May Allah's peace and blessings be upon him. As for what follows, the most truthful hadith is the Book of Allah, and the best guidance is the guidance of Muhammad, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him.
The worst of all things are its innovations, and every innovation is a misguidance, and every misguidance is in the Fire.
Allah's Guidance and Fear of People
Allah says in His Noble Book, after He said, I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan, I particularly pray to Allah that He gives me clarity in speech today, because by the first half of this khutbah, a lot of men are going to be upset with me, and by the second half of this khutbah, a lot of women are going to be upset with me, but that's okay. We have to be honest with the word of Allah, and we cannot be:
Don't be afraid of people, be afraid of Allah, right? And the things that I'm going to share with you today about this incredible, incredible ayah of the Quran, is not because I am living by this ayah, and you are not living by this ayah.
The Nature of Divine Guidance
All of us are trying to strive to live up to the standard of the word of Allah. The word of Allah is perfect in and of itself, but it did not come for perfect people. Allah's guidance is not for angels, Allah's guidance is for human beings.
And Allah knows that we make mistakes. And so when we think of the ayat of the Quran, the wrong attitude is, well, that's in the Quran, that's for the greatest people ever, that's not for me. It is for me, and it is for you.
And if we're not living up to it, then we're supposed to try to live up to it, right? That's what we're supposed to try to do. So we're going to listen to these ayat, this is just as much a reminder to myself, an advice to myself, and even an incrimination of myself, as it is of all of you. And that's really how we're supposed to think about the advice of Allah.
It is for you:
Advice, counsel has come to you from Allah, take it seriously. It's Allah that's telling you that which is good for you.
The Subject: Relationship Between Men and Women
So our subject today inshaAllah is the relationship between men and women. And this ayah, the second half of this ayah is very famous, especially in western circles, and in modern circles, because they use this ayah of Surah An-Nisa to say men are allowed to hit women. You know (فَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ - fadribuhunna) that's the (وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ - wadribuhunna) which comes later on in this ayah. But today that is not the subject at all.
So much injustice is done to this ayah because the first half of this ayah nobody even talks about. We're going to talk about that first half of the ayah today, which is hard enough to take in. It's hard enough to internalize what Allah is saying in that first half, okay?
The Clarity of Arabic Language
So now the first thing I want to tell you. Allah gave us this Quran in:
In clear Arabic language. Allah says the Quran is clear, and one of the reasons that the Quran is clear is that the Arabic language is extremely clear, and it clarifies things. So if you're going to be honest with the Book of Allah, you have to be honest with the language.
You cannot read a meaning into the ayah that the Arabic language doesn't allow. You have to stay within the meaning. And unfortunately this ayah, the way it's translated, a lot of times a great injustice is done to the meaning of the Arabic language.
Understanding the Word "Qawwam"
Is how this ayah begins. Men are, I won't translate yet, men are (قَوَّامٌ - qawwam) over women. Men are, the Arabic word is (قوام - qawwam) over women.
And this is translated sometimes men are authority over women. Men are in charge over women. And I'd like to share with you first and foremost that the word (قوّامٌ - qawwamun) which comes from (قاف، واو، ميم - qaaf, waaw, meem), (قام - qaam) in the Arabic language, has nothing to do with authority, and nothing to do with being in charge at all.
In the exhaustive dictionary of the Arabic language, of the pages and pages you're going to read, that have to do with this word, authority simply isn't there. Now if you want to make sure men are authority over women, go find the reason somewhere else, but not in the book of Allah, not in this ayah.
That is not just a crime against women, and much bigger this is a crime against Allah. Because now you're not being honest with what Allah Himself said, subhanahu wa ta'ala.
The Sacred Nature of the Word Qawwam
Think about this from another perspective, from an imani perspective first. You know Allah chose of all the languages, He chose Arabic. And of all the words of the Arabic language, there's like maybe 2% of the Arabic language is used in the Quran. 50 times more Arabic exists. And only 2% is found in the Quran, 2% of the vocabulary.
And of that 2%, a very small percentage is used. Allah honored it so much, meaning this is the most noble words of the Arabic language. Allah chose them for His own words, right? And among them are words that Allah chose to describe Himself.
So very, very few words in the Quran have the honor, and very few words in language have the honor of being used to describe Allah Himself. And the word qawwam actually shares a root with one of the names of Allah Al-Qayyum:
It's the same origin. This word itself, the meanings of this word itself are sacred. Allah chose it to even describe Himself, to not be honest with the meanings of this word, is to be extremely blasphemous. It's a very serious thing.
The Multiple Meanings of Qawwam
So the first thing I'm going to try to do is try to explain some of the meanings of the word qawwam before we get into the ayah itself.
Men are qawwam over women. The word qawwam comes from the word (qaamah - قام), which is (نقيض الجلوس - naqid al-juloos). It's the opposite of sitting.
Qaamah actually means standing. Like (قد قامت الصلاة، إقامة الصلاة - qad qaamat as-salaat, iqaamat as-salaat). It comes from the same origin.
First Meaning: Active Involvement
And the idea of being standing is actually being active, figuratively speaking. And sitting means being inactive. Men have to be active, play an active role in the lives of the women of their family.
They cannot sit idly by or be passive when it comes to taking the relationship of women in their household. The first thing that comes from the word qawwam, and by the way, Allah's name (القيم - al-qayyum) He's actively involved in everything He created. He didn't just create something and leave it alone.
He's actively involved. The idea of someone taking a seat, taking a seat back actually suggests that somebody is uninvolved. So men are incredibly involved in the lives of women.
The first implication.
Second Meaning: Commitment and Resolve
(القيام يأتي بمعنى العزم - al-qiyaam ya'tee bi ma'na al-'azm)
Qiyam comes in the meaning of commitment and resolve. When you don't give up on something, and you don't abandon something, and you hold on to something. That's the meaning of (العزم - al-'azm). For example, (فلما قام عبد الله يدعوه. فقالوا عزموا إذ. فقالوا قاموا إذ - falamma qaama 'abdu allahi yad'ooh, faqaaloo 'azamoo idh, faqaaloo qaamoo idh)
(فلما عزم عبد الله - falamma 'azama 'abdu allahi), when the slave of Allah showed commitment and stood up. Men are supposed to show over and over again their commitment to women. Men are committed to women.
Actually I would translate because this is (قوام صيغة المبالغة فعال - qawwaam seeghat al-mubaalaghah fa'aal). I would actually have to translate, men are repeatedly and incredibly committed to women. Men are incredibly committed to women.
That's the second implication. They're active participants in the lives of women, and they're incredibly committed to women. That's the second meaning.
Third Meaning: Close Protection
The third meaning (ملازماً محافظاً - mulaaziman muhaafizan). Someone who is always by someone else, sticks with them, is with them. There's one thing to be committed to someone in a distance, but actually to be close with someone, and to accompany someone all the time, and then protect them, to be protective of someone.
Men are to be in close proximity to women. Men are supposed to stay close to women, and stick with them, and at the same time they're supposed to be protective of them. Men are protective of women.
Fourth Meaning: Stability
This is the next meaning. And then (قام وقف وثبت - qaama waqafa wa thabata). The other meaning of (قيام - qiyaam) is to actually stay in place.
Men are constant sources of support, that stay there for women. Men are not unstable sources of reliance for women. Women need that stability in their life according to Allah (عز وجل - 'azza wa jall) and men will provide that stability.
Fifth Meaning: Caretaking
(القيام به الاعتناء به - al-qiyaam bihi al-i'tinaa bihi). Finally, the word (قيام - qiyaam) also means to take care of something. And that's why an okay translation of the ayah is also:
Men are maintainers of women, caretakers of women. These are the meanings of (قوام - qawwaam)
The Responsibility, Not Authority
Now in this ayah, we're not even going forward yet. Just in this phrase, you know what we've learned? We've learned that Allah (عز وجل - 'azza wa jall) put men in a huge position of responsibility over women. I'm not saying authority, I'm saying responsibility. A responsibility to take care of them, to be committed with them, to stick to them, to be a pillar by their side, to be a constant source of support, to be someone when their life is falling apart, they know this is not gonna fall apart, they can lean on this.
And Allah did not say, husbands are (قوام - qawwaam) to wives. He said, men are (قوام - qawwaam) to women. Even though the overall subject of the ayah is about husbands and wives, this is also for fathers and daughters.
This is also for brothers and sisters. This is also for uncles and nieces. You know, any women in your family, they will need support from you.
This is also for mothers who will find support in their sons. They will find that support. And that's why the language opens in a broad way and then constricts itself to the marriage relationship.
The Meaning of Fairness
This is (الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ - ar-rijaalu qawwaamoona 'ala an-nisaa') One last thing about this phrase.
(قامة الاستقامة بمعنى العدل - qaama al-istiqaamah bi ma'na al-'adl) from (استقامة - istiqaamah) related to (استقامة - istiqaamah) actually means fairness. Men are going to be repeatedly fair to women.
They're going to check themselves over and over again, am I being fair or am I being unfair? Am I justified in what I said and did or not? They are going to be fair judges over women, over and over and over again in every situation that comes. Their dealings, they'll have to check. And by the way, the word (قوام - qawwaam) suggests repetition, something that's done over and over again.
The Declarative Nature of the Command
And so Allah puts this in the form of خبر. In other words, men are قوام over women. He doesn't say men are supposed to be.
He says just this is what they are. This is it. As if men don't have a choice, it's a matter of fact.
Is that what you should do? This is what you're gonna do and that's it. There's no discussion. If there's room for discussion, you say they should be.
Perhaps men should be . لِيَكُونَ الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامِينَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ
No, no, no. Men are supposed to be. No, it's not supposed to be.
This is what you are and that's it. The responsibility is already been dropped on you. That's the first part.
Allah's Favor and Balance
Then the next part:
Because of the favor, Allah gave some over others.
The next part is Allah made men maintainers, caretakers, you know, providers, sources of support for women because Allah... on account of the fact that Allah favored some over others. I'm trying to translate carefully. Allah favored some over others.
Allah did not say بما فضلهم الله عليهن . Because Allah favored men over women. That's not what Allah said.
Allah said, Allah favored some over others. You know what that means? That means in the first part of this ayah, if I've tried to explain this to you properly, you have not been given an advantage, you've been given a responsibility. The advantage is actually gone to women.
You're the one taking care of them. You're the one providing support to them. Over and over and over again.
You're the one protecting them. Over and over and over again. When you're the guard, and they're the one being guarded, who's the beneficiary? They are.
They've been given an advantage. And so in the one sense, some people read this ayah and they assume immediately, this ayah means men have an advantage over women. You look at it carefully, who's been given the advantage? You look at it carefully, Allah says, some have been given advantage over others.
In other words, men have this responsibility, and they will have other advantages. And women have been given a responsibility, and they will have other advantages. Allah is balancing the equation.
This is what Allah does. Whenever He mentions a disadvantage, He counters it. You know?
Men's Financial Responsibility
And so now on the other side:
And they have been made maintainers, caretakers, provider, all of this over women. Why? On account of what? Because they are to spend from their own monies.
Allah has given you no choice in the matter. You cannot go with your wife to a restaurant and say, you pay, your family is rich.
You can't do that. No shop for yourself. There are so many people, so many couples that are having money trouble, and the husband says, you earn your job money, and if you can't get a job, then too bad, I'm not getting groceries for you.
You have to take care of yourself, I'll take care of myself. Allah says, men don't have a choice. They will provide for their women.
And they will not touch their... The women's money is not even talked about. What is hers is hers, and what's yours is hers. (وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ) That's literally what Allah did.
That's what comes with being a man, tough. And now the other thing. You're supposed to repeatedly take care.
She's getting angry and you're still a source of support. She's getting upset with you and you're still sticking with her. You don't slam the door and walk out and say, I had enough of this, I'm out.
You can't. ملازماً You're committed. That's what you are.
Now this seems kind of unfair. I mean, she gets to do whatever she wants and I have to put up with all of this? And I gotta spend my money too? (وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ)
Congratulations on being a man? This is the first half of the ayah.
Women's Responsibilities
But then we move to the second half of the ayah, and sisters, I'm not sorry. Just like I'm not sorry to the brothers.
The next word is (فَالصَّالِحَاتُ) Therefore, in other words, men will be this way. Men are this way.
Therefore, here's how women are going to be. Women also have a responsibility in this ayah. And as I say that, a lot of men start smiling.
Because, oh, finally their turn. At least I'll get the second half of the recording of this khutbah and share it with them. So they don't use the first half.
Everybody wants to hear what will advantage them. And they don't want to hear what will put them on trial. But you know what, in front of Allah, we are all slaves of Allah.
We're all slaves of Allah:
Allah is the supreme, the high. Don't try to take the word of Allah and put yourself in a higher position.
Don't try to somebody else take the word of Allah and put themselves in a higher position. This is why in those ayahs of rights and responsibilities, Allah will say:
Allah is the ultimately high. Why are you trying to take a high advantage using the word of Allah? That's not what the word of Allah came for.
So now even though I am a man, I have no right. Some sister will say, I have no right to speak about women. You're right, I don't.
But I do have to share what I've come to understand from Allah's word. And you have to do your own study. So I'm going to share what I've come to understand.
InshaAllah to the best of my ability. May Allah help me.
Good Women vs. All Women
(فَالصَّالِحَاتٌ) He begins, Therefore, good women... Now notice the part about men began with (الرّجَالٌ).
It didn't say:
(الصَّالِحُونَ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ) Good men are caretakers of women. He said, all men are. All men are.
But when it came to women, He did not begin with the word women. He didn't begin with:
.No, no, no (فَالنِّسَاءُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ. النساء)
(فَالصَّالِحَات) Allah is saying, that what is going to be described about women isn't actually naturally the case for all women. They're going to have to make an extra effort to be this way as a result of what a man is trying to do. He's trying to provide.
He's trying to be a source of support. And he's doing so over and over and over again. And they're going to have to be the first thing.
صالحات A poor translation, they're gonna have to be good. But we're gonna have to understand what (صالحات) means.
Understanding Salihat (Good Women)
(صالح or صلح) in Arabic actually is the opposite of (فساد). When something is bad, something is disgusting or ugly or corrupt.
And when you fix it(.صلّحَ صلّحَ) is both (لازم and متعدي) of something to become good or for you to fix something. For you to fix something.
Now what women are being told in this ayah is that actually they can have a tendency. They may or may not have it, but they have the ability to have a tendency. That no matter what good is done for them, they can't see good in it. They just can't see it in it.
They don't see it. So what? Oh, you think just because you did the groceries, I'm supposed to respect you now? And then you can say, As-salamu alaykum, and she'll say:
But the way in which my sister, the way in which you will say (وَعَلَيْكُمُ السَّلَامُ) is corrupt is ugly. There's no love in it.
There's no respect in it. There's spite in it. There's hatred in it.
There's this rejection in it. You're saying good words, but they're not صالح. And there's anger.
Well, he didn't call me last night, or he didn't do this, or he didn't do that. And there's all these reasons for you to be upset. Now he's trying over and over to be قوامand he's not perfect.
He's gonna mess up. And you're going to always have reasons to be angry,والله العظيم. Any wife that's sitting in the audience here, do you have any reason to be upset with your husband? There are going to be reasons.
Even if she says, no, no, no. In her mind, there's gonna be a list. In her mind, there's gonna be a list.
And if I say, can you just write them down on a paper? She's gonna say, do you have a notepad? I don't think a paper is enough. You know. There are going to be reasons for her to be upset.
And yet Allah says, the first quality she's supposed to have is to fight that tendency to hold a grudge, and to be angry, and to let that cloud the way she speaks, and the way she carries herself, but actually become a person that wants to reconcile, that wants to fix, that wants to move on, and not let things get corrupt, not let things get ugly.
By the way, fasada is also used for like, fasad al-labn, fasad al-lahm, fasad al-ta'am, when food goes bad. When you don't take care of food, it goes bad.
And you have to take extra precaution to make sure it stays fresh, or stays clean, and doesn't get infected. She's constantly gonna have to survey herself and her attitude. That's the first quality.
The Connection to Allah
Why should she do it? Then she asks, why should I do this? He doesn't deserve it. Do you know what he smells like? Do you know what he looks like? Do you know what he talks like? Brother, you gave this khutbah, but you don't understand my situation. Yes, you're right, I don't understand your situation, but Allah does.
I'm not talking to you about what I think, I'm telling you what Allah says. And He gives the reason in the next description of women, why should you be motivated to be this way?
قايتات Quran 4:34(
Qanitatun, because you're willing and obedient, willing and ready to serve Allah. Qunoot goes back to Allah.
Is muqaddam for ikhtisas, only to Allah should you be subservient. So when women are described as subservient, their relationship and their attitude with their husband is actually directly related to their connection with Allah. And when their attitude becomes corrupt, when their demeanor becomes spiteful, then actually that's an indication to yourself, not for your husband to point it out to you, for you yourself, of how far you're traversing from your connection with Allah.
And it gets so bad at sometimes. I've heard this with my own ears. A woman, well educated, well educated, learned it in the religion.
She's arguing with her husband, she gets mad at him, and she won't even sleep in the same bed. She won't even say, wa'alaikum salam, she won't even look at him, for weeks. And when she starts arguing,
and he says, you learn the religion, you pray every day, you're so good in Islam, why are you so mean to me? And she says, well right now I don't have to be Muslim, okay? Literally, right now I'm a Hindu.
These words come out, of knowledgeable religious women. It's shocking. Because the relationship with Allah gets cut, when your spite towards your man is so high.
Everything gets blocked off. Even your relationship with God. It's shocking.
You have to check yourself. You know, thank God they can't see me right now. (قَانِتَاتٌ) They have to be subservient to Allah.
Guarding the Unseen
Then he adds:
Guarding. Consistently guarding. (لِلْغَيْبِ) For what can't be seen.
Now what does that mean, guarding what can't be seen? The first meaning of that is, these women have to guard the dignity, the integrity, the respect, and the trust of their husbands, when the husband is not around. They shouldn't be talking to their friends about how bad he is. Because he can't be there to defend himself.
They shouldn't be talking to other men, if he doesn't want them talking to other men. They shouldn't be going places he didn't want them to go. Oh, he's never gonna find out.
He's at work until 6pm, he's never gonna know. He's completely in the unseen. They're invisible, the daytime, they're invisible guys at work, or whatever, he's traveling, and they can do whatever they want.
The first meaning of this ayah is actually they protect themselves from what he doesn't want them to do. And by the way, interestingly enough, (حافظ) guardian, is also caretaker in the Quran. Caretaker.
That's the first meaning here. The second meaning of (للغيب), which is profound, is that there are some things you cannot see. You cannot see your husband when he's at work.
You can't see your husband when he's traveling. You can't see your husband when he's checking into a flight at the airport. You can't see who he's sitting next to.
And you all know what I'm talking about. You can't see that. You can't see the trials and the temptations that this man that's married to you faces when he goes outside.
How the women at the office talk to him. How people look at him. Who he interacts with.
You can't control any of it. You don't see any of it. But you know what? Even if you don't see it, you can't be blind to it.
You have to guard what you can't even see. You know elsewhere in the Quran:
How can we guard over something we can't even see? How can we be careful about something we can't even see? And women are being told, listen up, I know you can't see it, but you better watch for it anyway. You better take care of your husband as if to think that what you cannot see still exists.
They have to go out of their way to be good to their husbands, to take care of their needs, to be attractive to their husbands, to be loving and caring to their husbands. They have to do all of these things and then not assume, well, he's ugly anyway, who's gonna like him outside? Who's gonna look at him? I don't have to take care of him, whatever. He can't do anything.
They develop this attitude. And once that attitude develops in the mind of a woman, she starts demeaning her husband, puts him down and assumes that there's a kind of, well, I don't have to do anything to take care of this relationship. And Allah is countering all of it because men try to continuously maintain, maintain, maintain, take care, take care, take care.
It has to be reciprocated on the other end. You have to take care of your husband and you have to guard for the unseen. You have to know that he might just, you don't take care of yourself and your relationship with him, you'll lose him.
Don't assume that you're gonna keep him. You will lose him. And even if you don't lose him explicitly, you might lose him emotionally.
He might emotionally divorce himself from you. He may not even look at you with the eyes of love. He may walk into the house with resentment.
Why am I walking into this battlefield again? Oh my God, what's she gonna say today? If that happens between a husband and the wife, what's the point of a marriage left? When Allah says:
So you go to them, so you can find peace, so you can find tranquility. And now you have situations where in the marriage, the only time a man does not find peace and tranquility is when he's around his wife. This is the tragedy on either side.
Men not doing their job, women not doing their job.
The Divine Nature of the Responsibility
(Quran 4:34)
The rest of the ayah is a discussion for another time. But the last thing inshallah ta'ala that I want to share with you.
Communication and Marriage Reconciliation
When it comes to safeguarding, and when it comes to being qawwam, it actually takes a serious amount of communication between both sides. Admission of one's own fault. And it comes a point, there's a point in a relationship where you can fix things.
There's a point where you can fix things, but we're human beings. A time comes where you can no longer fix it. It's broken, and it's done.
This is why in the next ayah:
If you're afraid that a schism, a crack is going to happen between the two of them. Now the ayah is, if you're afraid that a crack might happen, which means a crack has not necessarily happened yet, then you can get counsel, then you can get outside help. If you're in a relationship where you're fearing the crack is already showing up, but it's not big enough yet, get outside help.
Get other people involved. (فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا) Get wise good, sound, decision-making people, sensible people from her family and his family involved. Don't get stupid people involved.
Don't get people involved that will only make the fight worse, and make the situation worse for you and for her. Not those people. Not the people that you complain to and say, I feel you bro, yeah, they're all like that.
Why don't you come and help me out here as a counselor? No, no, no. You don't need extra gloves in the boxing ring. You don't need that.
(حكمًا), people that will make sound decision, can reasonably talk to both of you. And that can represent her interest and yours. Get outside help.
But the power of this ayah is, if you're afraid that still hasn't happened yet, if you don't take the right precautions, it might just happen. It might just happen. And it does.
The Reality of Divorce in Islam
And the Quran is realistic about that. The Quran is not like the Christian doctrine of marriage. The Christian view of marriage, marriage is a sacred bond until death, and there's no way it can ever be broken.
No way it can ever be ended. But in the book of Allah, divorce is talked about so exhaustively, so extensively. Why? Because it's a reality.
If you don't take care of it, it'll die. And it'll be impossible for two people to live together. You don't want it to come to that point.
You want to be able to save it before it gets to that point. May Allah (عز وجل) protect our marriages. And may Allah (عز وجل) give support to those who have gone through a divorce.
And may Allah (عزوجل) like He promises:
That He will give them independence from His own vastness. What a beautiful gift Allah gave to those who have gone through the difficulty of divorce. Allah will make them independent, and He will give them from His own treasure of vastness.
He never says that about anybody, but He talks about that for people who are divorced. They're not condemned people. May Allah (عز وجل) protect our marriages once again, and bless them.
And may Allah (عز وجل) give goodness in the hearts of men and women, that they are able to live up to this beautiful, beautiful advice that Allah has given them.
Closing Supplication
This completes the khutbah transcription with corrected Arabic text, proper references, clear paragraph divisions with headings, and removal of timestamps while maintaining the original content and انِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ.structure
And the word, حفظ also sisters listen up. In the beginning of my khutbah I said, that men have been given a word of responsibility that is so noble, that one of Allah's names goes back to that word, اقوام said that in the beginning.
And now the final attribute for women is حافظات للغيب The word:
(حافظ) is a name of Allah (حافظ) is one of the names of Allah:
This is one of the shared names of Allah. In other words, this is a divine responsibility for you to guard and safeguard this relationship. And by the way, you never use the word guard unless something is in danger.
Never. You don't have to guard something that's not in danger. What is Allah telling women? And what is Allah telling men? When men are told قوام Take care over and over and over again.
It actually means, if you don't repeatedly take care, it will fall apart. And what are women being told? If you don't watch guard, it'll be destroyed. You'll lose it.
It's actually very powerful that both sides have been given this balance.