Please don t fight your spouse after this khutbah - 1
By Nouman Ali Khan | 2026-01-08T17:34:42.475887+00:00 | Topic: Marriage
Please don't fight your spouse after this khutbah - Khutbah by Nouman Ali Khan
Opening Praise and Prayers
اَلْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ، اَلْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ خَالِقِ الْوُجُوْدِ مِنَ الْعَدَمِ وَجَاعِلِ النُّوْرِ مِنَ الظَّلَامِ وَمُخْرِجِ الصَّبْرِ مِنَ الْأَلَمِ وَمَالِكِ التَّوْبَةِ عَلَى النَّدَمِ، فَنَشْكُرُهُ عَلَى الْمَصَائِبِ كَمَا نَشْكُرُهُ عَلَى النِّعَمِ وَنُصَلِّيْ عَلَى رَسُوْلِهِ الْأَكْرَمِ ذُو الشَّرَفِ الْأَشَمِّ وَالنُّوْرِ الْأَتَمِّ وَالْكِتَابِ الْمُحْكَمِ وَخَاتَمِ النَّبِيِّيْنَ وَالْخَاتَمِ سَيِّدِ وَلَدِ آدَمَ الَّذِيْ بُشِّرَ بِهِ عِيْسَى ابْنُ مَرْيَمَ وَدَعَا لِبِعْثَتِهِ إِبْرَاهِيْمُ عَلَيْهِ السَّلَامُ حِيْنَ كَانَ يَرْفَعُ قَوَاعِدَ بَيْتِ اللهِ الْمُحَرَّمِ، فَصَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعَلَى أَتْبَاعِهِ خَيْرِ الْأُمَمِ الَّذِيْنَ بَارَكَ اللهُ بِهِمْ كَافَّةَ النَّاسِ الْعَرَبِ مِنْهُمْ وَالْعَجَمِ
فَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِيْ لَمْ يَتَّخِذْ وَلَدًا وَلَمْ يَكُنْ لَهُ شَرِيْكٌ فِي الْمُلْكِ وَلَمْ يَكُنْ لَهُ وَلِيٌّ مِنَ الذُّلِّ وَكَبِّرْهُ تَكْبِيْرًا. وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِيْ أَنْزَلَ عَلَى عَبْدِهِ الْكِتَابَ وَلَمْ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ عِوَجًا. وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِيْ نَحْمَدُهُ وَنَسْتَعِيْنُهُ وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ وَنُؤْمِنُ بِهِ وَنَتَوَكَّلُ عَلَيْهِ. وَنَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنْ شُرُوْرِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَمِنْ سَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا، مَنْ يَهْدِهِ اللهُ فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلَا هَادِيَ لَهُ
وَنَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَنَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُ اللهِ وَرَسُوْلُهُ أَرْسَلَهُ اللهُ تَعَالَى بِالْهُدَى وَدِيْنِ الْحَقِّ لِيُظْهِرَهُ عَلَى الدِّيْنِ كُلِّهِ وَكَفَى بِاللهِ شَهِيْدًا، فَصَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَسْلِيْمًا كَثِيْرًا كَثِيْرًا
أَمَّا بَعْدُ، فَإِنَّ أَصْدَقَ الْحَدِيْثِ كِتَابُ اللهِ وَخَيْرَ الْهَدْيِ هَدْيُ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَإِنَّ شَرَّ الْأُمُوْرِ مُحْدَثَاتُهَا وَإِنَّ كُلَّ مُحْدَثَةٍ بِدْعَةٌ وَكُلُّ بِدْعَةٍ ضَلَالَةٌ وَكُلُّ ضَلَالَةٍ فِي النَّارِ.
Main Quranic Verse
: قَالَ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِيْ كِتَابِهِ الْكَرِيْمِ بَعْدَ أَنْ أَقُوْلَ أَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيْمِ
(لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ)
رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِنْ لِسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي، اَللَّهُمَّ ثَبِّتْنَا عِنْدَ الْمَوْتِ بِلَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ، اَللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْنَا مِنَ الَّذِيْنَ آمَنُوْا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ، آمین یا رب العالمین.
The Nature of Human Conflict
Allah (عز وجل) when he sent human beings on the earth and sent both of our parents to the earth he said something remarkable because the devil was being sent down at the same time and he said: All of you descend you are going to be enemies to each other which means the devil is going to be the enemy to men and women and he is going to make sure that men become enemies to women and women become enemies to men and men to each other and women to each other so the idea is that he will try to create as much animosity as possible.
The shaitaan is going to cause tension between you cause friction between you and since the beginning of humanity until today human beings are suffering in their personal lives in community, in countries and in international politics with conflict there are all kinds of conflicts that human beings are engaged in every single day some of our conflicts are economic for example an employee fighting with an employer the boss says you need to work more and get paid less and the employee says no I want to work less and get paid more you know, the boss says less time off the employee says I want more time off the government tells people we want more taxes and people say we want to pay less taxes the government says we want to provide less services people say less taxes and more services there is a tension between people and government and employers and employees there is a tension between men and women in marriage and in social contracts and everything else, the rights between men and women.
Human Bias and Allah's Guidance
In all of these conflicts you know every side believes that they are right and you know for example if there is a divorce case or there is a conflict between two family members and they go to a divorce court judge if the judge is a man and the judge is a woman it's going to make a difference isn't it? because they can't help but be who they are and if the judge himself or herself went through a divorce just two months ago then when they see if the female judge sees the guy she's not going to see a man, she's going to see her ex-husband and she's going to let it out and you won't even know because human beings can't help themselves but be biased, the same thing with a man, he'll have a bias against a woman and he may not even be conscious of it.
The thing though is that Allah (عز وجل) gave us guidance and he gave us guidance because he loves men and he loves women equally, he's concerned with the employer and the employee equally, he's the only one that truly can be a neutral party, nobody else can be neutral, men can't be neutral women can't be neutral, you know parents can't be neutral, children can't be neutral children will say that parents have taken their rights parents will say children have taken their rights everybody is going to look at things from their own point of view.
The Problem of Self-Righteousness
What's interesting is our greed can be so in our need to just get our rights and what we deserve, it's so obsessive that even when we come to our religion, what we do often is that we study the things that will benefit us, so parents will look up all the places in the Quran that talk about parents' rights so they can quote it to their kids and say Allah says, Allah says be the best you can be to your parents, everybody wants to talk about their rights nobody wants to talk about their responsibilities and then on the flip side husbands will quote hadith and ayat at their wives and the wives will quote, oh you're no sahabi yourself and then they'll quote stuff at their husbands, so everybody wants to take a part of Islam they can use as a weapon to slap somebody else with instead of taking responsibility themselves.
The thing is when we say that the word of Allah is in the supreme place it's in the highest place, then I have to put my needs and my wants and my bias and my feelings on the side and put Allah's word above that and if I'm not able to do that then I don't understand the place of Allah's word because my own bias and my own feelings are actually superior to Allah's own words.
(لَا تُزَكُّوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ ۖ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ اتَّقَىٰ - Quran 53:32) Allah says don't consider yourselves pure like you don't need help, you don't need advice or this advice is already something you're living up to don't do that to yourself - he is better who's actually conscious of Allah not you, not even myself I can't even give that score card to myself, that belongs with Allah himself.
Understanding Qawwamun - Men as Caretakers
This ayah is one of the most famous and also the end of this ayah is a big controversy in Quran studies and sociology circles etc because this is the famous ayah in which men may be allowed to hit women, that's the end of this ayah and I've talked about that concluding part of the ayah in many different lectures but actually my khutbah today is not about that portion of the ayah, it's about the beginning of this ayah and in the beginning of this ayah Allah opens the statement by saying:
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ
Men are caretakers over women. The word (قوام) has several meanings and the first of its meanings (قومة الإنسان) is source of stability for women, that's one of its first meanings that men provide stability for women, men are a way by which they are protected protected not just physically or financially but also emotionally protected, so they are a place of security for them and then (يفعل قام) when somebody is committed to doing something then the verb (قام) is used when they've made up their mind and they're going to do something meaning men are committed to the care of women men are charged with the responsibility to protect and care for women.
Then Allah in the use of this word it's remarkable that this word we have to understand that it's sacred because from the same letters (ق, و and م) actually one of the other names of Allah derived from this word is (القيوم).
Allah describes himself in the Quran as (قَائِمٌ بِالْقِسْطِ) which is from the same origin so Allah has used the word for men that is actually it has some of the attributes that Allah uses for himself, so we have to understand what that means.
When Allah calls himself (القيوم) he's saying he's the one (تدبير أمر خلقه) he's the one who plans things out and lays out an entire sequence of events for his creation (وإنشاء هم ورزقهم) and to ensure that they're growing and to ensure that they're provided for meaning when men become (قوام) they're doing their very best to have an actual plan for the women in their you know, in their wing in their households.
The Concept of Muhsinin
You know another place in the Quran, Allah describes married men as (محصنين) with a (صاد) not with a (سين) with a (محصنين صاد), that's actually the same surah, and that actually means to bring women inside of a fort meaning, a fort is a symbol of protection, isn't it? and so, once you get married, she's entered your fort she's protected from all sides she's protected from everything else and a fort is self-sustained the food is provided for, protection is provided for, shelter is provided for everything is taken care of, and that's the idea of a (محصن).
And a woman interestingly enough, are described as (محصنات) women that are inside of the forts, meaning they don't like to go out of the fort too, they want to stay within that fort, and they're described as someone who accepts that role that the husband is playing.
Allah's Balanced Distribution of Roles
In any case Allah then says:
And this responsibility of being in charge of the care and the needs and the protection you know, for women this responsibility comes on account of the fact that Allah decided that some will have preference over others now this is important language Allah didn't say بما فضلهم الله عليهن He said بِمَا فَضَّلَ الله بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ because Allah has given some preference over others, you know what that means? that means in some things men preference, Allah has given them an advantage over women and in other things, Allah has given women an advantage over men men have to take certain responsibilities if they're going to be the caretaker or the provider and the protector and all of those responsibilities that's actually a privilege Allah has handed over to women, you're not responsible for any of those things.
Financial Responsibility of Men
So Allah then opens it even further and then talks to the men and says:
That's because of what they have to spend from their monies, now herein lies the key, Allah in the Quran did not talk exhaustively about marriage, like He didn't describe all the things that make a marriage work there are very few places in the Quran where Allah gave us some insights and basically it's like instead of describing the entire building, He mentioned a few pillars, if those pillars are not there, the building's going to collapse, right? and one of those pillars is that the money responsibility is the man's responsibility, he better go find a job, he better go get some work he better go and provide because that is actually what Allah has made him responsible for the word (قوام) in the beginning is now being explained by the fact that men are financially responsible for the groceries, for the car for the fuel, for the electricity bill for the school, you know, school supplies for the kids, everything everything.
And that starts from the very beginning when you get married you take the responsibility of paying a mahr, a dowry and some people, they love to have a high number for the dowry for their daughter they say it's going to be a 100,000 or 50,000 or 250,000 or whatever they put this crazy number and they're like, no, no, it's okay, you don't have to pay it now it's okay, but mashallah we should have a number that looks good and then people are married for 20 years and the guy hasn't paid his dowry, that's ridiculous because this is a condition of making a marriage valid, you can't put that off, you can't just keep kicking the can down the road.
The Sacred Nature of Mahr
A husband isn't even allowed to say to his wife, hey, by the way, can you give me a discount I know you put 50, can we take a few zeros off of that, or how about I give it to you, not dollars can I give it to you in rupees, same number you know you know, I'll give you in Zimbabwean currency or something, I'll give you some other currency that, you know, come on, just go easy, I have a hard life, look at all the things I'm doing if you agreed to it then you signed on, if you didn't want to agree to it, then you should never sign that document you're actually not even allowed to hint that you have trouble paying your mahr, men aren't even allowed to hint at that.
And after you pay the dowry, like if you're monthly payments you're making, you give her like 500 dollars or something, 100 bucks, whatever you give her, that's part of your dowry that you're paying off, and you pay her and you're like, fine here's your monthly you know, this week was really tough, this month was, you can't make none of those comments, and if she takes those 100 dollars from you, and then she takes out a dollar bill and says, here, go get yourself some ice cream, if she does that then, and you say, okay, thanks you can take that, if she did it on her own, but once you're handing that money, you're not even looking at that money anymore, it ain't yours that's part of being a man according to the Quran it's part of being rijal qawwamoon alal nisa.
Modern Challenges to Traditional Roles
So you know when, and the reason I was kind of, one of the reasons I was pushed to give this lecture, is because lots of people email me all kinds of questions and there are many men around the world whose wives are being told to go get a job and work, while they're sitting at home Muslim men and they're saying, you have to obey your husband what kind of ridiculous, what religion is that? Allah (عز وجل) made men responsible financially, and they can't even say, you have to go and we're having a hard time, you need to earn this or that, look, if there's a desperate situation and a wife decides to go get a job and support financially or do on her own, that's a voluntary thing she's doing that she cannot be told to do.
And if she does that, if she does get a job if she does have a business, if her father left behind some stores or some property in her name, and you're like, hey can we get some of that too, because I'm your
Gifts in Marriage
And whatever you gave her like you say, hey, you know on our 10th anniversary, I'm gonna give you this car, that you know, once you gave her the car, it's her car it's her, you can't even take the keys and say, I'm going, no, you gotta get her permission, and she better give it on her own good free will, no pressure not even unspoken pressure, that you can touch that car, because you gave it up, it's done it's done.
Give women their gifts happily and freely you don't even think about them again don't even think about them again, so this financial sense that men are supposed to have is critical, and Allah mentions that as one of the first conditions of what makes a marriage work what makes them men:
When they take that kind of responsibility where the wife doesn't have to ask, hey, we don't have food for groceries, we don't have money for groceries, we don't have this oh, I gotta give you again you know, and for a lot of men, you know what they do? they feel that they owe financial responsibility or financial help to their brother okay, to their sister to their mother and their father who may be financially already taken care of but you still wanna give them but you're not giving financial needs to your wife and your children that's not being a man that's not being a man.
Financial Abuse
And some people are in financial abuse situations where I've even seen cases where the bank account is a joint account between the husband, the man and his mother and the wife has no access to the account what kind of, what Islam did you learn? where did you get this from? and the wife is being constantly told by the way, that's our son it's like that's our property, you're just renting it you know this is what the wife is being told if you wanted to act that way then you had no business getting married if you wanted to treat, financially treat the spouse this way, then you have no business being in the institution of marriage this is the first and foremost principle.
You know, there are people who give mahr, they give marriage gifts or even at the wedding ceremony, they give lots of presents and then a couple of days later, the guy's family says, hey can we have those back, we need them for our daughter's wedding once you've given it up you've given it up, it's done with.
Women's Responsibilities - The Salihaat
Now let's flip to the other, and the sisters that are listening to this right now are like, yeah, finally a khutbah about team ladies well, you know, Allah is, I told you in the beginning Allah is fair, there's a balanced equation, Allah loves both sides, men and women Allah told the men what responsibilities they have the rest of this, the khutbah is actually the other side what is, what are the, ok so men are responsible for all of this, and they better you know, drip their sweat and break their backs, earning for a family and go through all of the labor that they need to go through to take care of them and provide for them, and protect them and take care of them emotionally, and financially and physically, and all of those things well what do the women owe then? what's their side of this equation?
Well Allah (عز وجل) starts with not, you know, he said men take care of women, and you were expecting that Allah will say women, therefore do this, right, but instead of saying women, he said then as a result, therefore, good women, good women he doesn't even say women, he says good women, as if Allah expects the first thing for women to be is good, not even women anymore you must be good.
The Meaning of Salih
And what does good mean in Arabic? the word salih comes from sulh, sulh means the opposite of fighting, the opposite of corruption, actually when there's a conflict then you want to make peace between two sides you do sulh, meaning women are, such wives are the source of ending all conflicts in the family they are a source of peace and reconciliation they are the reason tempers go down they are the reason voices are lowered they are the source of calm they are the voice of reason they are the source of reform if there is a conflict or some kind of tension the first place that the husband looks to when he turns to her, things are going to settle down is going to be the wife.
For some of you are like, seriously? because all the fighting is actually you're telling me that the place where all the fighting starts from is the place where it's supposed to end? because I don't have any other raised voices in my house except hers and nobody else is angry in my house except her so the guy is kind of, the men don't take care of their end, and women don't take care of their end, and they become a source of great tension and conflict, Allah starts by saying that they are a source of reform they are settled, they are calm they are actually peace themselves, goodness themselves they are the removal of all sorts of tension, that's the first quality.
Qanitatun - Eager to Obey
Then he says, qanitatun, eager to obey, and some have interpreted this as eager to obey Allah and that is true, they are eager to obey Allah, you know, they translate this as subservient, like al-qunutun lillah that qunut belongs to and Allah says:
Meaning have qunut, meaning have this kind of eagerness to obey only for the sake of Allah, but what in the world does that mean? that means, what's that doing here? because you know, if one side was men should do this for women you expect the rest of it to be women should do this for men so why in the middle of that is Allah saying yeah, they should do this for men, but this part is for Allah, well the reason that's there is because women should remember that when they are being a source of calm and when they are providing peace and sakina in the household, they need to realize, the only one who can keep a household calm is them and the only one who can truly set it on fire is them they control the emotional, like you know in your home you have an air conditioner control that controls the temperature, women control the emotional temperature of a household they control it and they better keep it cool because this is an act of them obeying Allah himself this is out of their eagerness to obey Allah they need to become a source of calm.
Emotional Dynamics in Marriage
You know, and they both need to do that, because men are taking care of them, and they are being calm in return you know for some people what happens in abusive, emotionally abusive relationships one person is constantly saying calm down, calm down, it's ok, it's ok don't be angry, don't be angry, and the more you say that the other person is like no don't talk to me, leave me alone etc, etc, so one person has to be upset one of them, it's either the guy who is upset and she is trying to calm him down, or she is upset and he is trying to calm her down, and they see that as a source of kind of control or power like yeah, I got him now if I calm down now, I don't get that many points let me get some more juice out of this you know, so I am going to keep this anger thing going to see how far I can take it so this kind of putting someone in a subservient position, this is against what Allah (عز وجل) wants.
Hafizhatun Lil Ghayb - Guarding the Invisible
So Allah (عز وجل) says then he adds something, another responsibility for women, he says they guard what is invisible they guard the invisible what does that mean? it means that the husband is out at work, they are not doing anything the husband wouldn't have wanted them to do they are not talking to anybody who the husband wouldn't have wanted them to talk to they don't have any friends that the husband didn't approve of they are not having any conversations that are behind his back conversations that are private between husband and wife are not being shared with her mother or her sister, or whoever else because they are supposed to guard that there is a privacy between a husband and a wife.
And just because you are having a conversation now if there is an abuse situation, and he is beating you or he is cussing you, or he is doing some crazy things to you, then you need to get somebody who can actually help, not just somebody to talk to but somebody who can come in and intervene that is talked about in the surah later on but when it becomes a habit, I just need to talk to somebody and you are just railing on the husband, or you are sharing things that he asked you to keep private or you are doing you have connections, or friends, or associates or company, or you are going to places where he would never
have wanted you to go to had he seen you there he would have been really upset, or really hurt and you are still doing that anyway and in your head, well he didn't find out, so it's okay Allah says, they have to guard what is invisible, meaning, part of the meaning is what is invisible to him they have to guard that because of what Allah ordained should be guarded.
The Balanced Equation
You see now the equation is balanced, on the one side Allah told men you have to spend because Allah has put that responsibility on you:
On the other side:
Of what Allah has decided to guard so they are not supposed to be keeping secrets from their husband they are not supposed to be having passwords on their phone, and the husband says can I see your phone, no why? hold on a second, let me erase everything okay, now you can see it why? the only one you can keep the private life of a wife is actually completely shared you are their لباس they are your لباس there are no secrets between husband and wife they are supposed to be completely open with each other.
Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) would share secrets with his wives:
When he shared a secret with his spouse in his private and most difficult moments he turned to her if you can't be each other's clothes you know when somebody is wearing clothes there is nothing between the clothes and your body, is there? your clothes, the inside of your clothes have no secrets between you and yourself and them that's the description of a spouse husband and a wife so when you are not able to guard that and what is meant to be just for the husband and what is meant to be just for the wife is going somewhere else then that's a violation of what women are supposed to do and this is just few things that Allah mentions that this is actually how the balance is maintained between the two sides.
When Problems Arise - Seeking Help
Happen but what about this, what about this, what about this what if he's crazy, what if she does this what if she does that everybody's concerned about the abuse from the other side and if there is abuse, it's real I acknowledge that it's real but what I wanted to elaborate first and foremost is how does Allah
expect things to look not I expect or you expect how does Allah expect the relationship to look what are some of its most fundamental pillars that if they are not there then they should be the first priority before anything else marriage can have a hundred problems a family can have a hundred problems if these few things that I've mentioned are still a problem then everything else is secondary this is the primary this is the real issue so this has to be worked on before anything else and if this is not being resolved this cannot be fixed then what does Allah say:
If you really think that this canyon has opened up between them and they can't seem to figure out how to make this work these fundamentals aren't there then you need to get someone worthy of counsel some wise person some sensible person that can represent her side from her family and get somebody representative from his family and get them to talk it out nobody else should get involved this is not a dinner conversation this is not some interesting subject at an Eid party you know those two are having trouble this is not for anybody else this is one responsible person who cares, who understands things and is not emotionally all over the place not an angry person from her family one calm, level-headed person from his family and they can have a mutual meeting to try to figure things out if things work out ok if things don't work out, that's ok too this is how things are supposed to be solved this is how hatred is not created.
Impact on Future Generations
And you know what happens a lot of times people remain in broken marriages and they don't get anybody involved and they don't fix what's broken and they develop hatred towards each other and when that hatred is towards between husband and wife the children see it and they learn that this is normal it's normal for mom and dad to talk this way so when those kids grow up and they're going to be married, guess how they're going to talk to their spouse that's what they learned that's the schooling they got at home so when you don't have that peace at home you are actually passing that chaos down to the next generations and it's a subconscious kind of learning when children learn from what they see, that is never forgotten what they learn in classroom you forget when you were kids, you don't remember what your teacher said in the class you remember one thing, what your parents used to do at home you remember you still as adults, you remember that because that leaves an imprint on a person's personality so this isn't just about even a husband and a wife it's about the legacy we're leaving behind the tranquility that's supposed to come thereafter.
The Need for Professional Help
I genuinely pray that those of you that are married husbands and wives are able to really look at themselves and recognize whether or not they're fulfilling their responsibilities as Allah wants them to and I genuinely hope if you do find yourself in a very difficult marriage situation that you're able to find
The True Purpose of Marriage
The fundamental purpose of marriage was:
"[That you may find rest in them.]"
Before Allah mentioned love, before He mentioned care (مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً) He said the first purpose of marriage is so you can find peace with each other when you look at someone you just calm down and relax like finally I'm in a safe place finally this is a place where I'll be dignified I won't be humiliated, I won't be reminded of my past mistakes I'm completely at ease because I'm in the presence of my spouse husband or wife if that's not there, then that needs to be there and if you're not able to get there yourself then you need outside help and professional help at that may Allah allow us the opportunity to fix broken relationships and to do what's best for ourselves and our families may Allah allow us and give us the rizq of seeking the right kind of help to mend the ties that are being broken.
Closing Prayer
نقول بعد أن أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
"Indeed, Allah and His angels send blessings upon the Prophet. O you who have believed, ask [Allah to confer] blessings upon him and ask [Allah to grant him] peace."
"Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded."
"Recite, [O Muhammad], what has been revealed to you of the Book and establish salah. Indeed, salah prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows that which you do."
"Indeed, salah is a timed ordinance for the believers."
عباد الله رحمكم الله اتقوا الله حميد مجيد