Are We Losing Focus?

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It has become so easy. Anyone you want as a tutor, you will find them on the net. Anyone you want as a tutor, you can have a dose of their teachings every day of your life. And you can download and put it in mp3 form and put it into your vehicle or into your little ipod or small mp3 player and have it plugged into your ears.

When we see the youth with little mp3 players, with the earphones plugged in, a lot of the times they would be just, which means their heads are being controlled by the beat that they are listening to. And they don't even know. And when you say salamu alaykum, wa alaykumu salam. Why? Because they can't hear how loud they are speaking because this is even more loud, very much more loud.

So they're screaming at you, hey relax, calm down, calm down. That's why if you see someone shaking their head, just carry on, smile at them, let go. May Allah protect us.

Now we have a new generation of people who are making use of those mp3 players for the Quran and for the teachings of Islam. Congratulations to you. You are achieving focus once again. You will be focused.

Never lose hope. None of us should feel that we are written off completely. You know I have committed so many sins that now I won't attain the mercy of Allah. That's shaitan. He promised to be in front and behind and on the sides waiting for us in waylay. And he promised as soon as I get hold of them you will see what I do.

So shaitan comes. When we try to focus, he comes again and makes us lose focus.

Purification from Haram Relations

Sometimes that focus, shaitan wants to make us lose it through an SMS we get from a school friend, a little flame during our school life. But I'm married with so many children. The message, we quickly hide it. And what we do instead of deleting it, we save the number.

So if her name is for example something, let me not say a name in case they are sisters with that name, and you find he saves it as Abdullah. Abdullah. Astaghfirullah. Slave of Allah. You rather say Abdus shaitan. Allah protect us. Why? Because you are saving a female's name as a male so that your wife doesn't see it. This is all losing focus.

Who made you lose focus? But you were a good man. You were a brilliant husband. You were a man totally focused. That SMS will not lead you to more than a few minutes of pleasure after which the fake level of that pleasure would drop you to the lowest. You may lose your entire family and your whole generation. Allah protect us.

The amount of regret that comes after sin can only be known by those who have suffered the loss. And we cannot afford to go and test it. Allah protect us.

If you want focus, purify yourself. Cut out all haram relations completely, totally. Cut them out. And focus on what you have. You cannot live happily and harmoniously with your own wife and children. You want to please the women of the whole dunya. How?

And this happens to us. When we enter the home, we lose focus. We become harsh in our tongues or on our tongues and in our attitude. And the minute we exit and you meet someone else, you know, a little woman on the road or where we have gone to a shop and we are on best behavior.

Allahu Akbar. So best that we don't even do things that we actually, you know, the smile that you have, broad smile and she's busy looking at your teeth. Sorry sir, what whitening do you use? Whitening do I use? My wife's never asked me that question.

Allahu Akbar. You know the reason I give these examples? They are real life examples. It's not a joke. Shaytan is waiting for us. So recognize shaytan. Shaytan is your open outright declared enemy. So consider him that. Consider him that. Treat him as your open outright declared enemy.

Definitely he calls his group of people towards the flames of Jahannam. How many of us would like to go in that direction? Please, my brothers and sisters, refocus very quickly.

Realignment Analogy

And you need to remember, walk on the path. If you have a motor vehicle and your wheel lacks balancing or alignment, you find there is no goodness, no sweetness in driving, even if it happens to be an expensive vehicle. Why? Because of one small milligram of lead that is missing from your tire.

Do you know that? One milligram of lead has caused such discomfort in your ride that you are not at ease and peace. And you will make sure you stop and get it realigned.

So I call on you, my brothers and sisters, just as I call on myself, stop and realign that one milligram of bad and evil that might be in you. And remember, if it is put in the wrong place, you will not enjoy the comfort of the ride to paradise. May Allah (سُبْحانَهُ وَتَعالى) grant it to us. Very important.

So Allah gives us to refocus. And shaitan gives us his own little beautifications in order to divert us once again. How many of us are ready, really, to recognize the devil that has been affecting us within and to deal with him immediately so that we can meet Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالٰى).

Depression and Focus

You have a difficult life. Some people live under the tree. Some people live in huts, in homes where they perhaps do not have some facilities that the others have. But believe me, if they are focused, they will achieve a lot. If they are focused, they are happier and more content than anyone else. And this brings me to another very interesting point.

You know depression? A lot of the times we are depressed because we've lost focus. And that's all. A lot of the times, when I say a lot, there may be an exception or two. A lot of the times we are depressed because we have lost focus.

Why do people get depressed? Because they couldn't have what they wanted, when they wanted it, how they wanted. Most depression is connected to that. Some of it might be connected to medical sickness and so on. But a lot of the times, I want to marry so and so. You can't. Oh, I'm depressed. Gone. Fall into real depression. Completely gone and we are out.

Marriage and Focus

You know having said this, my beloved parents who are here, do not stop your children from marrying whom they would like to marry, for as long as they are decent Muslims or they are ready to become decent Muslims. Remember that.

You know gone are the days when you can block and stop. It's just my call to you. It's up to you to listen or to turn a deaf ear to it, if I can use that term. If they would like to get married somewhere, decent people or someone ready to accept the fall, we sometimes may not have it according to our liking. But don't block it and stop it.

If you take a look at where and how they met, probably you were guilty of having created the scenario. I know of a lot of people who send their children to universities abroad. Remember, they will get a degree and they will also come back perhaps with something more than just a degree. Allah protect us.

So you must be ready for that. When you're sending them off, you can tell them and warn them. But remember, sometimes they are bombarded for four years by the environment. Five, six years by the environment. Live up to the reality. It may happen.

If you don't want that, you can educate them online. And online, you will still get sometimes a similar result. So it's all got to do with you and your focus and how you have prepared them to focus. That's important.

I cannot be a parent who is not focused and I expect my children to be focused. Father busy having an affair and the child knows about it, but he doesn't know how to talk to you.

What do you think he is going to do? He will say, dad, you're trying to block me from marrying this girl. She's ready to revert to Islam. But dad, you've been having an affair for so long with X, Y and Z. What about that? You say, who told you? The fact that you say who told you, it confirms that, yes, it's true. Doesn't it?

If someone tells you, brother, why did you steal the phone? You say, but who told you? That means I stole it. It's confirmation.

So how can we have lost focus and expect our children to have focus? This is why once you are married and you have children, it is even more important to be focused and make sure your children watch you and know that you are focused and they see that really you have the pleasure of Allah in front of your eyes.

Earning Through Halal Means

There is no ways we can achieve pleasure through the displeasure of the owner of pleasure and we know that. How can I achieve happiness by making the owner of happiness upset with me? How? How can I achieve barakah and blessings in my wealth when I earned the same wealth through the displeasure of the owner of the wealth? Allahu Akbar. This is why we need to refocus.

Sometimes very interestingly, you know, we have a deal. Someone says, I will give you so much percent interest. Do you know what the business people are doing today? Listen, brother, call it profit, not interest. Don't want to hear that word again, but still give it to me. Did you hear that? Call it profit, not interest. I don't want to hear that word again, but still give it to me.

Allahu Akbar, which means we have become greedy sometimes. In our greed, we earn things that are haram. How many times people walk out to a magazine store and quietly they pick up the dirty magazine and they want to purchase it. You have lost focus. You will never have those women, never ever. And you know what? There was a chance that you would have had better than that in paradise, but you are even blowing that chance.

So leave it. You save your money and you increase the chances of having something of your dreams and even beyond.

Everything is From This Earth

I always tell the young boys and girls that, you know what, what do you like in this world? Name it. They will tell you a car, a mobile phone, a this, a that, you know, a woman, a man, something they will give you an answer. I like some scenery, some place, some house, a kitchen. Some of the people will tell you everything you utter is only from this earth.

Nothing is from outside the earth. Have you thought of that? You want a beautiful Rolex. The glass is made from sand. Pressure and temperature gave you the glass. The little chrome was mined, perhaps in Zimbabwe. Allahu Akbar.

What else happened? You have a leather strap. It's from the cow, perhaps. You have something else. It's perhaps from here. Anything from Pluto, anything from Venus, anything from Mars? Nothing. Anything from above the earth's atmosphere? No.

It cannot help you. You, a person of the opposite sex, where were they created from? Allah says you were created from soil and you will return to it and we will resurrect you from it once again. So they are also from soil, the earth.

You have not yet seen one thing from outside the earth's atmosphere and you think that this is a big deal. Allahu Akbar.

Allah says in Jannah, in it there is that which no eyes have ever seen, no ears have ever heard, and no soul or mind or heart has ever thought of, even to the least.

So if you've thought of something, Jannah will have something better than that, but not that. This is why we say your spouse will be perfect. Shape and design as you want, thoughts as you like, everything to your like in your mind. Aren't you waiting for that day? Aren't you waiting for the day? May Allah grant that to us.

Forget about just your spouse. In this world, none of us are shaped how we want. Is that correct? None of us are shaped exactly how we want. Identification, Allah gave it to us. Identification, Allah gave it to us. My thumbprints, my face, my eyes, nose, Allah gave it to us. And it is blasphemous to actually change that. To actually change that, blasphemous.

But in Jannah, you will look how you want to look like. And guess what? When someone is seeing you, they will see you how they want to see you. One person, but many different ways of looking. Allahu Akbar. Isn't it mind-boggling? Something beyond understanding? You will look how you want to look like. You will sound how you want to sound like.

May Allah (سُبْحانَهُ وَتَعَالٰى) grant that to us.

Love of This World vs the Hereafter

We lose focus very quickly.

"Nay, you love that which is in front of you, forgetting that which is to come."

We love the dunya, forgetting the akhira. We love this worldly life, forgetting the life after death. And we don't even realize there are people who lived before us who are gone. They are in their graves. What will help them is their deeds. So pack away as many deeds as you can before you pass away, because that is the time you will desperately need those deeds.

Deeds While Alive

You know, people ask a question. "Am I allowed to read Quran for the dead? Am I allowed to do this for the dead? Am I allowed to do that for the dead? Am I allowed to sit after three days for the dead? Can we sit after three years for the dead? Can we do this for the dead?"

So everybody wants to do for the dead. I ask them, brother, sister, what did you do for yourself whilst you are alive? Can I build a masjid for the dead? Can I drill a well for the dead? Can I print 200 Qurans for the dead? Meaning, they want to give a reward to the dead.

But brother, whilst you are alive, why didn't you read Quran? If this person did not read Quran during their life, then they are at loss. If this person did not use their wealth to build a masjid during their lives, then, subhanallah, they had so much of the wealth, they sat with it miserly, and they counted it every day.

Not only will their heirs begin to fight, but if one of them decides to build a masjid, my brother, they did not want the masjid. Why are you building it? They didn't even want it. To them, they were ready to spend that money on prostitutes. Allah protect us. On a high life in France, Allah says, guard us. You know, to go out to a place full of sin and say, let's go on holiday. Allah protect us.