Istikharah How To & Why - Formatted Khutba
By Abdul Nasir Jangda | 2026-01-03T22:59:54.650149+00:00 | Topic: Iman
Istikharah: How To & Why?
A Khutba by Shaykh Abdul Nasir Jangda
Opening
All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and the [good] end is for the righteous, and peace and blessings be upon the master of the messengers and upon his family and companions and those who follow them in excellence until the Day of Judgment.
The Meaning of Istikharah
Istikharah, the word itself, comes from the root word of (خَيْر - khayr). Khayr is good. Khayr is like an umbrella word, it represents all that which is good.
Istikharah comes from (بَاب اسْتِفْعَال - bab istifal), and in that particular verb pattern, it develops the meaning of seeking something. So istikharah means (طَلَب الْخَيْر - talab al-khayr), to seek the good, to seek that which is good. And that's the meaning of the word istikharah itself.
And so just like the meaning, the prayer, (صلاة الاستخارة - salat al-istikharah), which is from the sunnah of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم), in fact it's an authentically narrated sunnah of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and an extremely emphasized practice of the Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم). And so similarly, just like the meaning of the word istikharah, the purpose of the salah is similarly to seek that which is good from Allah (جل جلاله).
And so I wanted to, insha'Allah, have this session to talk about, explain the procedure and the purpose of the istikharah. So I'm basically going to split today's presentation into two parts. The first part of the presentation will focus on the ritual itself, meaning the technicalities of istikharah, the procedure of the istikharah, the concept of the istikharah, and the outcome of the istikharah.
Then the second portion of the lecture will focus on what you could call the purpose of the istikharah, which basically will be by means of explaining the meaning and the beauty of the supplication of the istikharah itself, because that in and of itself unlocks the purpose and the reason why we even do istikharah.
The Concept of Istikharah
So to begin with the technicalities, I'd like to cover a few basic points. The first point is the concept of istikharah.
So to understand istikharah conceptually, what is salatul istikharah? So salatul istikharah, I can explain best to you what istikharah is, by explaining to you what istikharah is not. You know, as they say in Arabic:
Sometimes the best way to get to know something is to know the opposite of it. So the best way I can help you understand what istikharah is conceptually, what's the role of istikharah, what's the purpose of istikharah, the concept, is by explaining to you what it is not, what it most definitely is not.
What Istikharah Is NOT
And what I can tell you that istikharah is not, istikharah is not a magic 8 ball. Everybody know what a magic 8 ball is? You ever buy that? They get it at the mall like a gag gift, right? So what happens with a magic 8 ball? Let's just think about that for a second. So you say, should I go to the mall today? Maybe, right?
So that's a magic 8 ball, right? Basically what I mean by saying that, by just giving a silly example, what I'm trying to explain is, what people play around with when they play around with a magic 8 ball, what they're basically trying to do is, you know, they just throw up a random question, just shake the ball and get a magical answer.
And boom, you just go with it, you roll with it. It's kind of like rolling the dice. Istikharah is not that.
The Three-Step Decision-Making Process
Istikharah, the way I can explain it to you is that, it is the third of a three-step decision-making process. Istikharah is the third of a three-step decision-making process.
Step 1: Use Your Intellect
The first step of a decision-making process is to use the God-given intellect, ability, critical thinking that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has blessed each and every single human being with, in different capacities no less.
But nevertheless, Allah has granted every single human being the ability to be able to take factors into consideration, weigh different options, think about it, ponder on it, you know, reflect on it, contemplate it and process. That is the first step of a decision-making process in the life of a believer. That he first uses this (عَقْل - aql), this intelligence, this ability to think that Allah has granted him.
And there's a reason why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala emphasizes the (عَقْل - aql) أُولُو الْأَلْبَاب (ulu (al-albab) and these types of things in the Quran, because this is from the greatest of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's blessings. So that's the first step of a decision-making process. Take your circumstances into
consideration, look at the options available to you, and then sit down and think and try to figure out, do some research.
And try to come to somewhat of a conclusion. At least try to narrow your options and come to somewhat of a conclusion and decision. That's number one.
Step 2: Seek Counsel (Istishaarah)
The second step of a decision-making process is (استشارة - istishaarah). It sounds kind of like it rhymes with istikharah. It's because it comes from the same verb pattern, which basically is the Arabic word for seeking counsel, seeking advice.
Seeking counsel, seeking advice. A (مشورة - mashwara), right? It comes from that same word. So then the next step of the process is to then seek some counsel, seek some advice.
And that really depends on what type of a decision you're trying to make. If you wanna buy a car, so first you took a look at, you know, did some research online, you, you know, maybe went a little car shopping, looked at a few cars, maybe test drove something, and you narrowed it down to about three, four different cars that you're thinking about. Then what you could do, for instance, is you go to the masjid, and you know there's a brother at the masjid who's a car mechanic.
Now what you do is you sit down with that brother and say, brother, I wanted some advice from you, because you're experienced and knowledgeable about cars. What do you recommend? These are the three, four cars I'm looking at. What can you tell me? And he says, well, I wouldn't buy that. That has transmission problems. This car wears out really quickly, etc., etc. Now you're seeking counsel, you're seeking advice.
If it's a more personal matter or a personal issue, something that is like a life type of decision, then you seek that counsel and that advice from somebody who sincerely and honestly cares about you.
Somebody that is experienced and mature, and maybe even spiritually focused, so that they have a well-rounded perspective that they can provide to you. So that's istishaarah, that's the seeking counsel.
That's the second step of that decision-making process.
Step 3: Istikharah
The third and final step of that decision-making process is now istikharah. Now what basically has occurred up to this point is you started off with no idea what to do.
You narrowed it down to maybe a half a dozen different options. You then sought some counsel and got some advice from someone. Now you're down to your last couple of options.
A few options, maybe just two options, whatever it is. At this point in time, and now you're just, you know, you're kind of struggling with this or that. And you're starting to lean a little more towards one direction.
You're starting to lean a little more towards one direction. So you're thinking about two cars, and now you're starting to lean a little bit more towards buying a Camaro, for instance. Random example, I don't know where that came from.
So you're thinking about buying the Camaro, alright? Over, you know, a minivan. No brainer, right? But nevertheless, for some strange reason you're conflicted. Maybe you have two kids, but it doesn't matter.
They can sit in the back seat, alright? So, alright, somebody's going to be watching this video later on and they'll become very, very confused, alright?
Nevertheless, inside joke, I apologize. So, now you're starting to lean in one direction, but you're kind of conflicted. You're just a little bit conflicted.
You just need a little bit of a push, you need a little convincing. You're looking for that confidence, that confidence to make your decision that you kind of have come to now through critical thinking. You know, apply your intellect, do some research.
Number two, you sought some counsel. Now you're starting to lean in a direction, but you require some confidence. You need some clarity of mind and heart.
That is where istikharah comes into play. And that right there, what I've just explained to you, removes many of the issues and questions that people have about istikharah itself. A lot of people are confused about istikharah because people try to use it like the magic eight ball.
I got to buy a house, let me do istikharah. What do you think is going to happen? Like, are you magically just going to see a house like in your dreams and then all of a sudden you know that's the house, then you go searching for it and then you find it and it doesn't work that way. You don't decide, I need to buy a car, we need an extra car in the house.
And so I'm going to do istikharah and a Honda Civic is going to fall on me. So it doesn't work that way. And when people try to utilize istikharah in that way, then they walk away confused.
I made istikharah and I'm so confused. Shaykh, I made istikharah and I can't figure anything out. It's not working.
It's not working, you don't change the batteries when you're istikharah, right? What basically is going on is that you're not utilizing it properly. Anything that's not utilized properly, of course, it's not going to work right. So the thing is you got to utilize it in the right way.
You have to utilize it properly and appropriately. And that's the thing. So make sure that you turn it into the third of the three-step decision-making process.
That's the concept and the role of istikharah.
Prerequisites of Istikharah
The next thing I'd like to explain now is the prerequisites of istikharah. What is required to do istikharah? What is required to do istikharah and I'm going to be giving some context to this.
I'm going to give you the actual narration and the narration actually explains a little bit of this. But just for now, we're just going to roll with it, just speaking about it a little more generally. What is required for the istikharah is what is required for any other prayer, which is you need to make sure that you are pure and clean.
You need to make sure that you are clothed appropriately. You need to make sure that you have wudu. Obviously, that falls under purity, but I just want to be explicit.
Alright, so you are pure and clean. You do not require a bath of purification. You are dressed appropriately.
You have wudu. You are facing towards the qibla. And that's what's required for istikharah.
So basically, whatever is required to pray, just normally pray, that is exactly what's required for istikharah. There are no other extra, absolutely no extra prerequisites or requirements for istikharah. Alright, you don't have to pray it immediately before you go to sleep.
Don't have to. You don't have to take a shower and then immediately pray istikharah. No, you need wudu to pray, you need wudu for istikharah.
Istikharah is a prayer, just like duhr is a prayer, just like nafl would be a prayer. Alright, so that's all you need. You don't need to like stop talking to people when you decide to do istikharah.
Don't need to do that. You don't need to wake up in the middle of the night and do istikharah. Not required.
You don't have to go stand on top of a mountain on one leg and do istikharah. None of that. So you get my drift at this point.
Anything extra that you might have ever heard, you might have ever come across, you might have assumed that is needed for istikharah, aside from what's required to pray. Wudu, dressed appropriately, obviously. You wanna be clothed, that's common sense.
Alright, facing the qibla, Allahu Akbar, that's istikharah. That's it.
Timing Restrictions
The only thing I will add in here is that according to the opinion of the majority of the scholars, there are small small differences of opinion.
I'm basically going to go ahead and tell you what the majority of the scholars say. Because in istikharah, in salat al istikharah, there's not like some very very like major differences of opinion. There's a few minor opinions here and there that differ from the vast majority.
I'm just gonna go ahead and share the majority opinion. Because it's an overwhelmingly majority opinion. And the overwhelmingly majority opinion is, the only thing you gotta watch out for is, again, what you watch out for other prayers.
And that is, make sure you don't pray istikharah at the times when prayer is forbidden. At the times when prayer is forbidden. And those are three basic times of the day.
While the sun is rising, during the rising of the sun. When the sun is at its peak, at its zenith. Alright, which literally lasts for a minute or so.
A couple of minutes is playing it safe. And then the setting of the sun. Those three times of the day when we are told not to pray, that same, again, so it's the same requirements of salat, same requirements for istikharah.
That's it. So that is the prerequisites of istikharah.
The Procedure of Istikharah
Now what is the procedure of istikharah? What is the sequence of events, the procedure? So obviously, once you fulfill the prerequisites, you will stand up and you will pray two rakahs, two units of prayer, two units of prayer, two rakahs of salat, with a nafl, with a voluntary, supererogatory intention.
Two rakahs, two units of nafl prayer, optional, voluntary prayer. Alright, that is istikharah. Why am I emphasizing and specifying that it needs to be two rakahs of a voluntary prayer? When we read the text of the hadith together inshaAllah, at that time you'll see, it's mentioned explicitly within the text of the hadith by the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him.
So no debate, no question there. What that basically means is you can't like pray salatul isha, and just make the supplication of istikharah, two for one, all done. Can't do that.
Alright? Istikharah, the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ exclusively said, you gotta invest two more extra rakahs of prayer that are voluntary, that are optional. That's the first thing.
How to Pray the Two Rakahs
The second thing, so you pray those two rakahs of prayer, there is nothing different about those two units of prayer.
You pray them as you would pray any other two units of prayer. Or actually, let me kind of backtrack that just a little bit, you pray those two units of prayer as you should pray any other salat. Alright? There's obviously room for improvement in my prayer, and I'm pretty sure everybody feels that there's room for improvement within their prayers.
So aside from that entire discussion, basically you pray istikharah like you would pray any other prayer, any other salat. Which is two rakahs, qiyam, ruku, two sujood, qiyam, ruku, two sujood. Just like that.
And then you sit at the end, the tashahhud, salawat on the Messenger, supplications, salam, salam, taslim. That is the procedure of the istikharah. There's no extra special surah that should be recited here.
There's nothing that's authentically narrated from the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ that he would recite this in the first rakat, he would recite that in the second rakat. Nothing of that nature, nothing of that sort. You just recite two, you pray two rakahs of prayer.
Reciting the Dua
Once you finish these two rakahs of prayer, which means assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, taslim. You then at that time recite the exact supplication taught to us by the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ in the Arabic language. You read it in Arabic.
Now again here, the vast overwhelming majority of scholars are of the opinion that the supplication of istikharah is to be done after the prayer. There are just a couple of opinions here and there, where they say to do it before the taslim. However, the vast overwhelming majority, and again, if you analyze the text of the hadith, which I'm going to point out to you, when we do read the text of the actual hadith from the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَyou'll see that the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ mentions a word, which makes it very clear that the supplication is meant to be after the prayer is complete.
Okay? So now at this point you recite the supplication, and again I'm saying you read the supplication in Arabic. You read it in Arabic. Why am I explicitly saying that? Again, the hadith very clearly mentions that fact.
What If You Don't Know Arabic?
Now a question comes up here. What if I don't know, I don't have it memorized? Read it off of a piece of paper. Fuqaha have stated that very clearly.
If somebody needs to read it off of a piece of paper, that's okay. Read it out of the book, read it off of a piece of paper, photocopy it, do what you gotta do.
But nevertheless, read the actual Arabic of the supplication.
Don't kind of read the summarized English translation and say, I'm going to paraphrase and do it on my own. No. When we read the text of the hadith, you'll see the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ explicitly said, read it as I've taught it to you.
Alright? So that's the next thing. The other thing, and I'd like to go ahead and state this because, just in case anybody is watching the video or is listening to the lecture, then what if somebody can't read Arabic? Somebody doesn't yet have the ability to read Arabic, inshallah they're learning how to read Arabic. Alright? Then use a transliteration or something of that nature to try to do the best of your ability.
But of course, somebody recently took shahada, somebody just recently kind of came into connection with their deen and started learning. There's always an exception to the rule. We do not give enough consideration to people who have had a major turning point in their life, whether we're talking about people who might have been born in Muslim families but just not raised with the deen, and they come to practice the deen later on in their lives, or we're talking about converts or reverts, people who took shahada, accepted Islam later in life.
Consideration always should be given to them, and it should be understood that they're doing the best that they can, and they should make an effort definitely to try to learn Arabic as much as possible, as quickly as possible, but until and unless they get to that point, they are completely capable of practicing their deen to the best of their ability, and that is, it's okay for somebody like that to read it in English, or even read the translation of it. That is a very, very specific situation, and consideration should be given to those type of cases.
Nevertheless, going back to the procedure, so we talked about you pray two rakahs, you complete the prayer, you then read the supplication in Arabic to the best of your ability, and then that is basically the procedure of istikharah.
You read the supplication in Arabic, and that is done. Then you don't have to make some extra dua after that. The supplication, the Arabic that you read, is the supplication itself.
It is the dua itself, alright? So there's no other extra procedure after that. Once you're done with reading the supplication, you are done.
The Outcome of Istikharah
Now, the next issue I'd like to address is what is the outcome of the istikharah.
Again, I can start by telling you what is not the outcome of the istikharah. You will not wake up in the middle of the night and have a 3D vision of what you should do. I can tell you that much, that's not going
to happen, alright? It's istikharah, not avatar, alright? That's just not how it works, okay? So that's one thing we need to be clear on.
And while it might seem like a joke or silly to some people, sometimes people just don't know, alright? So the outcome of the istikharah is nothing out of this world like that.
The Primary Outcome
The primary outcome of the istikharah is that clarity of mind that I was talking about, that confidence to make the decision you need to make that I was referring to earlier, that I alluded to. You feel confident in making a decision, you feel good about making a decision.
So you are already leaning towards one option, option A, alright? And there is another option on the table, but you're a lot more confident about option A, or maybe you've kind of come to a decision on option A, but you just need that extra little confidence. So you do your istikharah, you'll naturally start to feel more confident, you'll feel more clear, you'll feel ready to make that decision. That is the outcome of your istikharah.
So the outcome of the istikharah is to reflect internally, to be a bit introspective, to just take a look inside and see if you feel good, you feel confident about making your decision. And how do you know that maybe the istikharah, the outcome is that maybe this isn't the best decision for you? You'll naturally feel down, you'll feel conflicted, you'll feel doubtful, you'll feel very, very scared, or anxious, or hesitant, or apprehensive about making your decision. Then at that time, at that point, that is basically your response of the istikharah, your outcome of the istikharah, that maybe this isn't the best decision for you, alright? And that's how simple and easy istikharah is.
That's how simple and easy istikharah is. The reason why istikharah has also become complicated for us a lot of times is because we're looking for something out of this world, something supernatural, something that's really, really far out. So we look for something crazy like that, and when we don't find it, then we feel unfulfilled.
But if we learn to just think a bit internally, we learn to just be a little bit more reflective and introspective, naturally you'll find the response of your istikharah to be a lot more facilitated for you. You're just thinking internally, and you naturally feel confident in your decision. So that's the outcome and that's the result of the istikharah.
About Dreams
The question always comes up, well what about dreams? The issue of dreams is one thing that needs to be understood. We don't completely dismiss dreams altogether. Authentic narrations of the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ tell us that dreams are something that a believer derives inspiration from.
Listen to the words very carefully. Dreams are something that a believer can derive, can take inspiration from. But by no means, even the greatest of scholars, like Ibn Sirin from the Tabi'un, even great scholars of interpretation of dreams, one of the first things they would say, or the first things that they taught their students, was that dreams are not a basis of making decisions.
Decisions should not be made based on dreams. They were the first and foremost to tell their students, even though these were scholars of the interpretation of dreams, nevertheless they said, at the most, it's inspiration, it's motivation, it's encouragement. That's all it is.
It's not something that you base a decision on. And so that's, I'd like to clarify that right here. If you have a dream and it kind of inspires you and motivates you, alhamdulillah, don't read too much into it, because you're not supposed to.
Now that's the outcome of the istikharah.
Miscellaneous Issues
And that basically... Now there's two miscellaneous issues that I'd like to explain. Two extra little issues here at the end that I'd like to add on to this discussion.
What If You Still Don't Feel Confident?
The first issue is kind of related to the outcome. What if I make istikharah and I just still don't feel comfortable or confident in my decision? You know, I still don't feel confident, I still don't feel clear, I'm not comfortable making a decision, and I made istikharah and I followed the procedure properly, I still just don't feel comfortable. What do I do at that time? The course of action at that time is, do it again.
Do it again. And it doesn't work again, then do it again. And still I'm not comfortable, do it again.
Keep doing it until you feel confident and comfortable in making a decision. That's it. There's even a narration from Abdullah bin Jubair رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا one of the companions of the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and also one of, probably Aisha رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا's best and brightest student.
He says, there's a little incident about his life, he talks about this. He says that, I made istikharah with Allah three times.
And then I was comfortable and confident in making my decision.
So he actually explicitly mentions, while explaining to his students, he says, if you gotta do istikharah multiple times, you gotta do istikharah multiple times. That's okay. He says, I had to make istikharah three
times one time to make a decision.
But that's alright. So, don't be afraid of repeating the istikharah multiple times. And a lot of times it's just a matter of, and this is kind of a tragedy of our times, but sometimes we become kind of spiritually numb in that sense.
So we're not very introspective, we're not very reflective. Right? Sometimes the superficial nature of the culture that we live in, or our activities and things like that make us a little spiritually dull or numb. And so we might have to just do istikharah a few times to kind of break through the surface or crack through the shell.
And that's okay. Alright?
Can Someone Else Do Istikharah for Me?
The next, the last issue I wanted to mention here that is associated with istikharah is that there's one very commonly asked question, one issue that comes up quite often. And that is, can I ask someone, can I have somebody else do istikharah for me? Alright? There is no precedent, there is no religious verification for having someone else do istikharah for you.
There's no precedent, there's nothing mentioned within the hadith of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) There's no precedent of this within the generation of sahaba. None of the classical, in fact the classical fuqaha have explicitly stated that istikharah is meant to be done by the individual him or herself. Istikharah is meant to be done by the individual him or herself.
And that is a rule. That's it. A person has to do their istikharah themselves.
Now, there's a very honest sincere question, a concern that's in the minds of people who ask this question. And that question or that concern is often, you know, I'm not a very good person. I don't even pray five times a day.
I have a lot of sins, a lot of issues in my life. I feel very... I feel distant from Allah maybe. Or I don't know if I make istikharah then it will be clear or won't be clear.
And so I want to ask someone to make istikharah who's a lot more righteous and pious. And someone who's a lot better person than I am. And that's just a concern that a lot of people have.
But I'd like to answer that concern by first saying that maybe part of the reason that you feel that way about your relationship with Allah is because of this mentality and this approach that you have. Where you don't feel like you're good enough to talk to Allah. You feel like you don't have access to Allah.
So the first thing that you have to get over is the simple fact that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is just as available. Allah is just as accessible to the sinful person as He is to the most righteous and pious person.
Allah is accessible and available to everyone.
We all can pray to Allah. We can all ask Allah for whatever we need. We can all do istikharah with Allah.
And the second answer to that concern is if you do... You are feeling a bit guilty. You are feeling a bit self- conscious about the fact that you are distant from Allah and you're not praying and maybe that's why you shouldn't be doing istikharah. Then why then put another barrier between you and Allah? Why not fix the problem? Why not say, I have a situation.
I need to do istikharah. I don't pray five times a day and that's why I don't feel comfortable doing istikharah. Well, it's time for salatul maghrib right now or it's time for salatul isha right now.
Why don't I go ahead and take that first step? Why don't I go and make wudu, stand up, pray salatul isha, then pray two rakats and do my istikharah? Let's get it out of the way. Let's get it done. And so that's the answer to that question.
So there is no validity to having somebody halfway across the world in some village somewhere doing istikharah on your behalf and that person didn't even know who you are and what's going on with you. And by the way, as a little side note, just a little word of advice, if that person is charging you, it's probably a scam, alright? Just a little note of caution, alright? The person charging you, right? Dollar, dollar, bill y'all. Then there's a problem there, okay?
Then you need to stay away from that entire situation, okay? So just a little note of caution, okay? But nevertheless, I did want to address that in a serious issue, in a serious manner, that there is no validity, there is no precedent, there is no... there is absolutely no authenticity to having somebody do istikharah on your behalf.
The person, him or herself, that person, whatever situation they're dealing with, they need to be doing their own istikharah. They need to do their own istikharah. There might be situations, and as a side note, there might be situations where a decision affects multiple people.
Then everybody involved in the situation makes their own istikharah. If I will be implicated by this decision, then we all make our own istikharah. But nevertheless, it's not kind of like, okay, we need to do a business deal.
So myself, Obeid and Middat are gonna get into a little business together. All right? I wouldn't get into business with Obeid, I don't trust him. But nevertheless, so all of us, all right, so... I don't know who these people are.
So, with a couple of people, I'm getting into a business with them. And I need to, we need to come to this decision, is this a good decision or not? So we decide, you know what brothers, we've looked at the facts,
we've crunched the numbers, we've spoken to a couple of people, we got some consultation, we need to do istikharah. So we say, all right, ini mini ma'ani mo, you do istikharah.
Doesn't work that way. Let everybody go and do their own istikharah. So even when it is a joint decision, everybody should be doing istikharah.
But definitely when it is your personal decision, make your own istikharah. Don't put it off on someone else. Nobody else can do your istikharah, you do your own.
And then that little concern that is there, I'm not good enough, I'm not pious enough, I'm not righteous enough, doesn't make any sense. Allah is Allah, and He's accessible to you. All you gotta do is go get clean, go make wudu, (فَاسْتَقِدْلًا اللهُ أَكْبَرُ - fastaqidla Allahu Akbar), and you're talking to Allah.
Done deal. Secondly, if you do feel like you're distant from Allah, then fix the problem, don't create another problem. Don't create another problem, but rather fix the problem, repair the relationship, fix the issue.
What We Don't Make Istikharah For
And it obviously goes without saying that we don't make istikharah for anything that is impermissible. So there is no istikharah for, you know, should I drink alcohol? Of course that's very bad. You know, should I gamble? What should I put my money on? Should I put my money on this race or this horse? It goes without saying, it's common sense, we do not make istikharah about things that are impermissible.
Also, we do not make istikharah about things that are obligatory. So there's no making istikharah of, should I pray salatul isha or not? That goes without saying, things that are obligatory, things that are a part of the deen, things that we're supposed to do, like fasting in Ramadan. There's no making istikharah, should I fast in Ramadan or not? And similarly, we do not make istikharah for things that are impermissible.
And of course that's common sense, but I just wanted to mention that.
The Hadith of Istikharah
Now, let's go ahead and discuss the supplication of istikharah itself. I'll go ahead and read the hadith to you.
And this is a hadith from Sahih Bukhari. This narration is in the Sahih of Imam Bukhari.
An-Jabirin رضي الله عنه qal, Jabir, may Allah be pleased with him, he is a very eminent, knowledgeable companion of the Prophet of Allah.
(Sahih al-Bukhari 1162)
He says, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, he regularly would remind us and teach us to do istikharah in all of our affairs and our issues.
In all issues, in all decisions, in all affairs.
Just like he would teach us a surah from the Quran.
Just like he would teach us a surah from the Quran. What does that mean? He's drawing a parallel. And this is, by the way, this is the same type of verbiage that's used to talk about the tashahhud in the prayer.
That he would teach us a tashahhud like he would teach us a surah from the Quran. And it's also said here about istikharah. This means two things, that has two implications.
Implication number one, he emphasized the importance of memorizing it. Just like we memorize a surah from the Quran, similarly, he emphasized the importance of memorizing the supplication of istikharah. The second implication of this is that to read it in the Arabic language, like we read a surah in the Arabic language.
When we read a surah from the Quran in our prayer, we read it in Arabic. Correct or not everyone? Yes. And again, there's that rare exception that I talked about.
Nevertheless, the general rule is that we read the supplication in Arabic. Similarly, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم taught us to read the supplication of the Istikharah in Arabic, just like we read a surah in Arabic. Okay.
He then goes on to say:
He would say, when anyone of you is concerned with an issue or a matter.
When anyone of you is concerned or dealing with or is concerned or dealing with or thinking about an issue, a decision, a matter.
Then he should pray two rakahs of optional prayer.
So he should pray two rakahs of prayer.
Aside from the fard obligatory prayer. Other than the fard obligatory prayer.
So this is where I was explicitly saying that it has to be voluntary optional prayer. Because the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم explicitly in the hadith, in the narration says, it must be voluntary optional prayer.
says: صلى الله عليه وسلم Then the Prophet
In the Arabic language, in classical Arabic, the Quranic and prophetic language.
In classical Arabic, the word (ثُمَّ - thumma) is to basically say what we would say afterwards, after that, then afterwards. Alright, so it states that this occurs after the previous thing has been completed or concluded. So based on this, the vast overwhelming majority of the scholars are of the opinion, the supplication of istikharah is to be read after the prayer has been completed, after the taslim.
Now the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم reads this supplication for us and teaches us this supplication. So I'm going to explain the meaning of this supplication.
The Dua of Istikharah
Allah, most definitely I seek that which is good from You (بعلمك - bi ilmika) by means of Your knowledge.
Because, oh Allah, You know what's good for me, I don't know what's good. Like the ayah of the Quran says:
You might like something initially and it turns out to be good for you, you might dislike something initially and it turns out to be bad for you. So based on that, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the only one who knows what's good for me.
So that's why I'm saying, Allahumma, O Allah:
O Allah, I seek that which is good from You by means of Your knowledge.
And I seek the ability to do what I need to do by means of Your power and Your ability. Meaning I'm weak, I'm incapable, but I seek the ability to make my decision and to do what I need to do by means of Your ability and Your power.
And I ask You to grant me from Your great majestic benevolence. That Your blessing that is so great, I ask You to bless me from Your blessing. To grant me some from Your blessing.
And now this is personally my favorite part of the supplication. Extremely beautiful. And this kind of states the mentality behind istikharah.
Because most definitely you are fully capable and I am completely incapable.
And you know everything, and I don't know anything.
And O Allah, you are علام Allam). Allam, this is the exaggerated form of the word, the hyperbolized noun. This basically means the complete knower of الْغُيُوب )Al-Ghuyub(.
Ghuyub is the plural of the word Ghayb. All those things that are unseen, all those things that are hidden, all those things that are unknown. That you are the complete knower inside out of all those things that are unseen and unknown and hidden.
The Crux of the Supplication
Now here comes the crux of the supplication:
O Allah, you know. O Allah, you know that this issue, this decision, this matter:
In my deen, in my religious affairs,
And in my worldly affairs,
And in the end of my affairs.
In the end of my affairs. What does that mean, the end of my affairs? What do you think that's referring to? The akhira, the life of the hereafter. So if you know, O Allah, that this decision that I'd like to make, that I've been kind of struggling with, you know, O Allah, that if this is good for me in my deen, in my religion, in my worldly matters and issues, and if this is good for me in the akhira, another narration of this same supplication, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
In my short term and in the long term.
In my short term and in the long term. What do you think short term refers to, everybody? Dunya, life of this world, this life. And آجله ajilihi) the long term, makes reference to akhira, the life of the hereafter.
That, O Allah, you know that if this is good for me in the short term and long term, dunya and akhira, what do I request to you, O Allah?
Make it possible for me. Make it possible for me, make it happen for me.
Make it possible for me, make it happen for me.
But that's not it. Now we get to see the real beauty, the magnificence of the supplication.
Don't just make it possible and available to me.
Make it easy, facilitate it for me. Facilitate it for me. Make it simple, make it easy and accessible for me.
And we're still not done.
Remember I told you the meaning of ثُمَّ )thumma(, ثُمَّ means that after the fact. After what fact? After I have achieved it.
Put blessing in it for me. We're going for the premium package here. Premium package.
I want the works. All the options. I want it to be possible for me, O Allah.
I want it to be easy and simple and accessible, facilitated for me, O Allah. And then after I have it, I want بركة )barakah) and blessing in it, O Allah. What a comprehensive supplication.
What a beautifully comprehensive supplication.
If It's Not Good
It then goes on, Allahumma, O Allah:
And O Allah, you know that this issue, this matter, if this is bad for me in my deen, in my worldly matters, and in the end of my affairs, in akhira, in the hereafter. Another narration again says:
In my short term and in the long term, meaning in my dunya and my akhira.
Then what? Now here we get to again see the beauty and the eloquence of the supplication. The prophetic eloquence on full display. Let me break down the words to you here.
The word صرف )sarf) means to turn something. There are two entities here. There is you and what you are making istikharah for.
So the first part, the supplication says, if this is bad for me in my dunya and akhira, then:
Turn it away from me.
And turn me away from it. Turn it away from me and turn me away from it.
You see the eloquence within the supplication? The visual it provides? Imagine you and what you are making istikharah for. There Allah, if this is bad for me in my dunya and my akhira, then I want nothing to do with it. So don't just turn it away from me, but turn me away from it.
Want nothing to do with it. I got no business with it. If there is no khair, then what would I want with it? So this is what the supplication teaches us to say.
The Alternative
But that doesn't solve the problem, does it? That doesn't solve the problem. There is still an issue left. What's the problem? A brother still got to get married, right? Brother still got to get married, right? Whatever it is that you are making istikharah for, your need, your necessity, your situation, your decision is still not complete.
Fine, you made istikharah, you realize that this is not good for me, you felt uncomfortable, you felt hesitant, or you felt apprehensive about the decision, and you backed away. Done. But your need still remains.
So the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم doesn't leave his ummah hanging here. Completes the supplication.
And then make possible for me that which is good.
So this particular situation wasn't good for me. So I ask Allah, Allah turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. I want nothing to do with it.
But Allah (al-khayr):
Make that which is good, possible for me. But the problem is, I don't know where, I don't know how, I don't know when, I don't know anything about it. I don't know who she is, where she lives.
I don't know nothing. Where do I start?
Wherever and however that good may be.
Wherever and however that good may be.
So make that which is good, possible for me whenever, wherever, however it may be.
I leave it to you O Allah. I'll still do my due diligence.
I'll still stay at work, trying to find the right option, trying to make the right decision. But O Allah, make that good possible for me. Meaning lead me to that khair.
I stumbled here, no worries, no problem, I was saved from شرّ )sharr). But make something good possible for me down the road. And this is like a consolation at the end of supplication.
This situation don't work out, that's actually good. That means there wasn't khair. You're asking Allah for khair and Allah will make khair possible for you.
That yaqeen), that conviction, needs to be there when you make supplication. Particularly good. Allah will make that which is good possible for you.
I just gotta keep sticking to what I do. And I gotta keep my hopes high in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Final Request
So make that which is good possible for me wherever and however it may be.
And then, meaning once I have gotten that which is good for me:
Make me pleased, make me satisfied with it.
In another narration, the Prophet says the words:
Then make me satisfied with it. Make me content or satisfied, fulfilled with it.
Make me pleased with it. Now again, kinda sounds like the same thing, right? We have alhamdulillah here, at the lecture here, we have plenty of Arabic students. And even somebody who doesn't have any formal background in Arabic studies, you can hear the difference.
And the other one is:
Arabic: ثُمَّ رَضِنِي بِهِ مِن بَاب فَعَال
They sound a lot alike but are they completely the same word? There's a little bit of a difference. And the difference is the difference in verb pattern. And the thing about these verb groups and verb patterns is that they all have their own special implication.
In the classical form of the language, they have special implications.
Arabic: أَرْضِنِي بِه وَرَضني به
When you have the same root word coming in both verb patterns, these two verb patterns, the subtle difference between the two is that:
Arabic: أرْضِنِي
Means make all at once. To make something happen all at once.
Make me all at once completely satisfied and fulfilled with it.
Arabic: رَضِنِي بِهِ
The verb pattern it comes from has the implication of for something to happen continuously. Little by little, step by step.
And subhanAllah, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said it with the two different verb forms. And this shows not only the eloquence of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم),but it shows how well he understood people. Because there are two types of people when it comes to making a decision, right? Some people might take their time, might do their due diligence, might do their research.
And then take their time to come to a decision. But when they finally come to a conclusion, decision, then what? Done. Done.
Decisions made. Finished. (خلاص - khalas).
Confident. Going forward now. That's it.
Some people are like that. And then some people are a little different. They come to a conclusion and decision.
They feel good. Everything's okay. All right.
Bismillah. Inshallah. Going forward.
Oh great. Fantastic. And then at 12 at night, midnight, you get a text message from your friend.
I'm freaking out. Oh my God. I don't know what to do.
I'm nervous. And then you say, don't worry about it. It's all okay.
It's midnight. Let me sleep. Everything will be all right.
Inshallah. And you say, okay, okay. Inshallah.
I'm good. I'm good. And then you wake up to pray Salatul Fajr and he calls you.
Like who calls at 5am? You answer the phone like, bro, seriously, I gotta talk to you right now. I'm not sure about this, man. I'm really nervous.
That's okay. Some people are like that. They need that constant reassurance.
They need to be reassured. And subhanAllah, look at the messenger of Allah, how well he knows people, how well he understands people. He accommodated both types of people.
For the guy who might take his time to make his decision, but once he makes it, he's done. For the person that, oh Allah, don't just make me pleased with it, but keep me pleased with it. Keep me pleased with it.
Constantly reassure me about my decision, oh Allah. SubhanAllah. All right?
Mentioning Your Need
Now, at the end of the supplication, in the narration of Bukhari, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) says and now I'll point this out.
Some of you might be, have that question, but you didn't explain this. At the end of the narration, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم):said
Arabic: وَيُسَمِّي حَاجَتَهُ
And then he mentions his need.
So when you go back into the supplication, remember the part that I said was the crux of the supplication:
Oh Allah, You know that this decision, if this is good for me, that is the moment where the Prophet (صلی الله عليه وسلم) says the person should mention his or her need.
And the scholars explain that if somebody, there's two options. Somebody could just simply think of whatever it is that they're making istikharah about, that would suffice.
That would suffice. If somebody just visualizes or conceptualizes or just thinks of what they're making istikharah about, that is sufficient. Otherwise a person can feel free, should feel free, to go ahead and even verbalize it if they need to.
No, they don't need to verbalize it. They don't need to verbalize it in Arabic if that's not their language. They don't need to say it in Arabic if that's not their language.
They can say it in their own language. They can interject that right there. They go, Oh Allah:
And then at that time the person says, buying this particular car, purchasing this house, marrying so and SO:
Arabic: خَيْرٌ لِي
That this is good for me. And then the supplication goes on and continues. Similarly there's a second moment when you mention it as well, when you say the other part of it:
So when you say the flip side of it, that Oh Allah you know that if this decision, an issue is bad for me, this is not good for me, then again you can either think about it, conceptualize it, or even verbalize it, say it, whatever it is that you're doing istikharah about, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) taught us to do that, Inshallah.
That way it becomes very practical, it's very real. It's a real experience.
You're literally stating your need, alright? And that's something the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) taught us to do. So that concludes the discussion on the meaning of the supplication of istikharah. And to quite an extent that gives you an insight into why we do istikharah.
What is the purpose? What is the spirit of istikharah?
The Eloquence of the Dua
One other thing I'd like to explain here about the supplication of istikharah, this is a prime example, this is a perfect example of the prophetic eloquence. How eloquent the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) was, and how beautiful these supplications are that he's taught us. And there's a lot of khair, a lot of good in learning the prophetic supplications, and we should make sure that we invest some time and energy into learning these beautiful supplications.
Wisdom Behind the Procedure
The next thing that I wanted to, the last little note that I wanted to mention here, is a few little basic quotes from some scholars about the blessing of istikharah, and why we do istikharah. Something beautiful, Ibn Abi Jamrah, rahimahullah, a great scholar, he says, the wisdom behind putting the salah before the istikharah, is the istikharah combines both the good of this world and the next. And just like in this dunya, a person needs to go to the one that he needs something from, that he has a need with, you have to go to them, you have to basically win their favor, and then you present your need before them.
The salah, the prayer that precedes the supplication, is like knocking at the door of the king. It's like knocking at the door of the king, it is presenting yourself before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and praying to Allah, sujood, humbling yourself before Allah, putting your face on the ground in front of Allah, and then spreading your hands and presenting your need before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And that is the beauty of even the sequence of istikharah.
Ibn Taymiyyah, he says, that he who seeks guidance from the creator, he says, that somebody who seeks the good, seeks guidance, does istikharah with the khaliq, with the creator, and then consults with the creation, with people:
Arabic: وَثَبَتَ فِي أَمْرِهِ
And then once he comes to a decision that he's confident and he goes forward with it, such a person will never regret. That person will never regret or have no remorse about the decision that he makes.
And Imam al-Nawawi, I'll kind of end on this point, Imam al-Nawawi says, that after performing the istikharah, then when a person is wholeheartedly inclined, and feels good about a decision, then a person should go ahead, and then say Bismillah as we say, say Bismillah and then just go ahead with the istikharah, go ahead with the course of action, go ahead with that conclusion and that decision.
Because istikharah is like a training in adab with Allah. Istikharah is a training in adab with Allah, that oh Allah, I will not make a decision without checking with you, without praying to you, even though I'm fully confident, I'll still do istikharah. It shows adab with Allah, and part of that adab with Allah is that when you do come to a conclusion, decision, you did make istikharah, and you feel confident about your decision, then you go with it, then you roll with it.
You remove doubt at that time. You don't second guess, you don't doubt, you don't do these things, because then that on the other hand would actually show disrespect to Allah and to this practice of istikharah. And at that time you go with it.
The Key Ingredient: Conviction
And the last and the final note I wanted to mention here is istikharah, one other requirement for istikharah, and I didn't mention this in the prerequisites because I was talking about more in terms of fiqh.
What do you need like in terms of fiqh when you do istikharah? But the primary ingredient of the istikharah is conviction. Know who you are praying to.
You're praying to Allah رَبُّ الْعَالَمِينَ (Rabbul Alameen) خَالِقٌ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ (Khaliqul Kulli Shay') وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ وَكِيلٌ (Wahua Ala Kulli Shay'in Wakeel). You're praying to the one who created each and every single thing, and watches and controls each and every single thing. He sustains and maintains each and every single thing.
It is Allah. قَادِرٌ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ (Qadirun Ala Kulli Shay'). He's capable of doing whatever he wants.
فَعّالٌ لِمَا يُرِيدُ (Fa'alun Lima Yureed). He can do whatever he will يَحْكُمْ مَا يُرِيدُ (Yahkumu Ma Yureed).
يَفْعَلْ مَا يَشَاءُ (Yaf'alu Ma Yasha'). That's who you're dealing with. So have that level of confidence when you do istikharah.
I'm not just consulting with anyone. I'm talking to Allah. And Allah will help me in my situation.
Allah will give me clarity of mind, and Allah will bless me with confidence. And have that. And when you do make istikharah, and let's just say that negative aspect of the istikharah that I mentioned, the sharr, let's just say you do feel hesitant.
Remember what the end of the supplication said. Don't feel disheartened at that time. Because the end of the supplication, you do ask Allah for khair.
And if you have that level of conviction in Allah, you will have that conviction that Allah will provide to you that which is best for you. Have that conviction. Have that level of iman and yaqeen within Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and His ability to take care of you.
And Allah will, insha'Allah, take care of us as it says in the hadith Qudsi:
(Sahih al-Bukhari 7405)
I deal with my slave according to how he perceives me.
I deal with my slave according to how he perceives me. Meaning if he perceives that I can take care of him, I take care of him.
When he's doubtful then maybe he won't be taken care of. So actually the onus is on us. How do we perceive our relationship with Allah? May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala give us all the ability to practice everything that's been said and heard.
Final Hadith
I guess I'll end with this. I actually forgot I'll end with this one last hadith mentioned in the Musnad of Imam Ahmad narrated by Sa'd bin Abi Waqas رضي الله عنه. He says that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
Arabic
Reference: Musnad Ahmad 1547
That from the blessing of the son of Adam is the ability to seek good from Allah do istikharah with Allah.
Arabic
And also from the blessing of the son of Adam the children of Adam is that they are pleased with whatever Allah has decreed for them.
Arabic
And from the wretchedness of the children of Adam, the human being is that when he leaves doing istikharah with Allah.
Arabic
And also from the wretchedness of the human being is that when that human being is displeased with what Allah has decreed for him.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless us all to do istikharah and to be pleased with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's decree and decision in our affairs and issues.
Closing
Arabic
Translation: May Allah reward you with good. Peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.